The art of expansion includes and requires that we embrace the whole of us, and allow our wholeness to reveal itself to us. That includes healing our wounds.
We are always eager to get on with it…to leave the past behind and to feel the “good” stuff. I understand this so well. I too have lived this pattern. This idea may be even more pronounced when we have had experiences that have drained our life force energy. We can’t imagine waiting even one more minute to feel better. We may say “haven’t I paid my dues yet?” “Does this abundant thinking crap really work?”
I have witnessed in my clients’ lives, and my own life how our dedication to higher consciousness can also be a mask for our pain. We “believe” we are living with right thinking and perspective when we are happy and when things are going well. We forget that the natural course of expansion includes contraction. When we begin to expand, we start to allow all parts of our self to emerge. Situations begin to arise that shine a light on that which is not yet healed or evolved. If we judge our experiences as good and bad we will question the process. Or, better said, our ego mind will do its best to re-take control of our thought patterns.
How do we recognize when this has happened? We begin to feel powerless. We return to worry. Or, we get mad. Then we give up. We go unconscious. We point fingers away from the reason we don’t feel good anymore. It’s not our un-healed wounds, it’s something else. Something that’s going on in our outer life.
We want to ignore our wounds when they show themselves. They’re not pretty. They are no fun. They are not higher consciousness. We can’t waste time dwelling on the past. We lived it, why do we have to look back at it? The reason we need to look at it is because without giving attention to past injuries and recognizing the effect they have on our lives, we single handedly empower the past, or limited patterns, to remain a driving force in our lives.
The process of enlightenment requires that we accept and love all parts of our experiences and recognize the value they offer. All of this is so we may move toward embracing the whole of self. That means moving away from judgment about good or bad experiences. It means we have to move away from the mindset that says feeling good, and being happy are the only experiences worth having. Rather, that all experiences have value. I certainly prefer happy to sad. That is a human reality. The spiritual reality is that all experiences are equal in value. There is no good, or bad.
The process of expansion is more than just getting stuff. It’s more than having our relationships work out. It’s more than connecting with life purpose. It’s about embracing the wholeness of who we are. It’s about allowing the awareness of wholeness into our consciousness. Ego tells us we are not whole. We are deficient. That is the opposite of who we are. We experience limitations in the physical body because it is the best way to learn where limitations exist in our consciousness.
If we are not healed, our contributions, our interactions, and even our outcomes are filtered through our wounds. Those wounds will continue to be presented to us until we resolve them. This is an act of higher consciousness meeting our needs at the deepest levels. This is the road to enlightenment.
How do we recognize our wounds? Most often we recognize them through our teachers. Who are our teachers? Our spouses who infuriate us, or don’t meet our needs. Our boss or co-worker who demeans or controls us in various ways. Our children who do the opposite of what we would like them to do. Our friends who disappoint us. These people and situations represent the vehicle for your learning…your teachers.
When you find yourself feeling angry, worried, or certain you would be just fine “if only” someone or something outside of yourself would shift…that is your teacher. That is what you need to look at it inside of yourself. If we did not have a wound, we would not be reacting to the external stimulus. Nothing outside of us will ever cause us to feel complete, or incomplete. Unless we consent, or are motivated by our wounds, nothing outside of you can shake your center. If your center is unstable, you will react from a place that says “it’s your fault” and “if only….”
Follow this general outline to heal your wounds:
1. When faced with inner conflict, start by finding your neutrality. Remember all experiences are equal in higher consciousness. Source is meeting your needs, based upon your contributions to energy. You have told Source energetically you want to heal something, and an opportunity has presented itself to you.
2. Love yourself for your vulnerability and humanness. Take time to acknowledge your injury and to source its origins. Don’t rush to move away from the uncomfortable feelings. Allow your insight about this wound to rise to your awareness. Give yourself space to feel.
3. Reach for gratitude. Find your humility, and be appreciative for the awareness that you bring into your space. Give thanks for this opportunity. Feed the powerlessness with love and acceptance, either through ritual or some other means of self support.
4. Be kind to yourself. Don’t judge yourself for being wounded. This is a process, not a race. Many of us have layers to uncover to heal the wounds in our space. We can only do as much as we can do. That is enough. There is no timeline you need to meet for anything in your life. Source will always deliver what you need to you.
5. Do not make the mistake of forgetting where your life comes from…the origin of your wealth. The origin of your health. The origin of all the love in your life. Regardless of the vehicle …i.e. job, spouse…family.. your needs are being met through your relationship with Source. It is your relationship with Source that determines your abundance.
6. Acknowledge the one-ness of consciousness. There is no us, no them, only the one. Allow the feeling of connection to life to bathe over you. You are one wave in the ocean of life. We are all connected. Everything we do affects everything else. See the God consciousness in you. Recognize that as you heal yourself, you heal the whole. You are mighty and powerful just for being you.
7. Take time to take care of yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. This is how you stay connected. It is how you cope with the awareness of your wounds when you see them. It is one big piece in how you gain awareness of your innate wholeness. Finally, ask for insight on how to stay connected to Source. Guess what… you will receive it.

Author's Bio: 

Do you want to know the answer to your life questions, or just about your current relationship or job? Phyllis King will tell it all to you in a compassionate and humorous manner. It’s God talk like you’ve never heard before.

Phyllis King is known as the Common Sense psychic because she loves to give practical and down to earth advice. If asked she will tell you “I am just someone with heightened awareness all the time. My skill is to see the blocks in people’s lives.” “I’ll answer questions about love, career, life purpose…its all energy. My goal is to help people on the journey to their own answers.”

Phyllis’ first memories of being psychic occurred around age five. She recalls waking in the night to “dancing” beings in her house. She didn’t know that it was right or wrong, or different. No one in her family spoke about these types of occurrences, and she never mentioned it.

In her early teens she began to have precognitive dreams. She would see the details of various events. When she would awaken, in short order those events would come to pass. Again, she never mentioned this to anyone. It was an event that occurred at age 19 that changed her motivation and direction forever. She was visited by a friend who had passed in a car accident.
She knew then she had to understand the “unseen” part of life and her own innate talents.

She has used and continues to use her skills in the corporate world, the private sector, and in nonprofit work. She has held positions as Executive Director, Marketing Director, and Human Resource Manager.

Perhaps Phyllis’ most engaging commentary comes from her personal experience of healing from sexual abuse, violence, abandonment, divorce, and financial devastation. Having grown around these experiences, she brings the wisdom of success and rebirth to her readings.

Most remarkable is the tremendous compassion she has for others. She marries that compassion with humor and insight, making her readings entertaining and empowering.

She has read thousands of people in 20 different countries and has appeared on CBS TV, NBC TV, and radio programs across the country. She regularly guest-hosts the popular personal growth program, Seeing Beyond, in San Francisco. Phyllis hosts workshops and group reading events regularly.

She is the author of the book, A Psychic Perspective, The co-author of Collective Wisdom, and the co-author of Bouncing Back with Dr. Wayne Dyer, and her latest work is Impressions, Simple Truths for Practicing Abundant Thinking.

For everything about Phyllis visit . For a telephone session call 925.362.3083 or email