If you happen to be new in the community of swingers, then there are a lot of adjustments that you have to make. It is perhaps one of the most fitting lifestyles for the stoic calm type of people and in this piece, you will get to know the certain rules, practices and other relevant information that will prove that to be true. So, let’s get started and familiarize the customs of being a swinger, shall we?
Talk to Your Partners
One of the hardest steps to take for first time swingers is when they have to drop the bombshell with their mates. It is imperative to get affirmation that he or she is comfortable with moving forward or even open to the idea of swinging. Otherwise, there is no sense of pursuing the whole thing at all.
Educate Yourself
There are pros in cons in living a swinger’s life and you also have to know for a fact that there are potential risks that may arise if you do not tread carefully. With that said, you have to be very careful when choosing a person to have sex with (presuming that your partner’s affirmation is already there.) And by careful,meaning always use protection. Also when choosing a couple both of you should be involved in the process and there are several swinger websites out there.
Dimming the Lights
Okay, we’re moving on to the action part of becoming a swinger. One of the central points of joining the club is to fill up the gauge for sexual satiety and if you cannot achieve that after so many “encounters,” it’s basically pointless. So, in order to bring your drive to a whole new level, practice one of the finest techniques in seducing people, which happens to be the application of dim lighting or the more traditional way by candle lighting with all other lights off. For one, it creates a gloomy type of delineation for different skin tones that will actually make both parties look more daring and really into the whole scenario. And for starters, it’d be best that you practice with your partner ASAP!
Do Not Get Attached
One of the biggest restrictions in a swinger’s life is to become attached to anyone they encounter. First time swingers may have a problem dealing with this certain rule, but if you’re really up for the guilty pleasure, then you should remove yourself from any emotional equation. And how exactly do you not get attached? We are all susceptible to the whole falling in love thing and it happens even with the person you expect the least to be. And that only happens when you spend a lot of time with that person. So, my point is: After the session, move on to another and never look back. Or maybe look back, but after you have done swinging with a couple others already, because it gets easier to trail away from emotional attachments when you constantly mix everything in a bottle where you don’t get to pick the exact same candy all the time.
Do Not Get Jealous… Ever!
Last but definitely not the least, don't get jealous. In a swinger’s life, you are prohibited from it and not because it is one of the seven sins, but because you don’t have the right to be. Being a swinger alone is already against the whole biblical reference of sinfulness with the lust part in it alone, in case you haven't noticed. Right from the beginning, when you have agreed upon the formalities with your partner, you are already declaring the freedom to have “fun” with a partner of another. And therefore, there is the assurance that none of you should be jealous for the fact that you have decided to add more spice into your life by budging in to someone else's business or letting others get under your pants in their call. With that in mind it is noted that swingers do have a lower divorce rate than monogamous couples which can be viewed here: Swingers And Divorce.
When you get jealous, it’s actually admittance to the profound happiness you are experiencing with the person you have only met in your swinging journey or simply being unfair to your partner, knowing that you can do whatever you want without his or her constant approval. At any rate, you should learn to accustom yourself with the whole "no shades of grey concept," that everything is black and white. That it can only be good or bad, and that you should only go with it if you are not struggling with the doubt. Either way, it's a fun and truly spontaneous lifestyle that is really worth the try.
Mike Hatcher writes on mens rights and alternative relationships such as swingers, polyamory and open relationships. Mike writes for the largest swingersblog http://blog.swinglifestyle.com/