There are so many opportunities around us to become a better person, but none of these opportunities can guarantee immediate success.
It is never right to think that doing one thing could make you an instant success. The reality is, there are things that you did and didn’t do that out you in the position you are in right now. Should you regret? Maybe yes and maybe no. You can never be sure about the future, of course, so there is really no point in blaming your decisions in the past.
Is There a Secret Formula for Success?
If you are not happy with your weight or size, for instance, you won’t find a secret food or diet that will give you a perfect figure. If you want a happy married life, you cannot expect to find the perfect man that won’t break your heart and will give you a flawless marriage.
What I am trying to say here is that there is no such thing as a secret formula in life. All there is are solutions and fixes. Everything is entirely up to you and how you think about your life. If you always think of the bad things happening in your life, it won’t be surprising if you end up living miserably. What you should focus on is how you could have a more positive mindset and approach in life.
How you think about yourself, other people, and the things happening in your life plays a crucial role in how you are going to shape your life.
Change by Changing Your Thoughts
When you learn to change your thoughts, you will be surprised with the change that will happen to you as a person. We are the ones who can determine until what point we are going to grow as individuals. When you learn to think like a Level 10 person, for instance, you would consider a Level 6 problem a very easy one to handle. And when you look back to the old you, you would wonder how and why you were not able to overcome such an obstacle that time. In short, you become mature because you think like a really mature person.
Decision-Making
The topic of change will always involve the topic of making decisions. It is true that all your decisions will have an effect in your life, whether it is positive or negative. If you hate the fact that you have made so many bad decisions in the past, you should start wondering how you can start to make good ones. Remember that when you decide, it is your mind that dictates what you should and shouldn’t do. Thus, if you change and improve your way of thinking, chances are your decisions in the future will be the right ones to make.
Words
Do you talk to yourself? If not, you should start communicating with yourself more often. This may sound ridiculous, but talking to yourself can be very helpful to you, especially when you find yourself in a situation where you have to make a big decision. Let yourself hear your thoughts and let the other side of you weigh your options so you could come up with a decision that will change your life for the better.
Accepting the Need to Change
After you miss a great opportunity, you feel upset and you can’t seem to forgive yourself. If you continue feeling upset about your failure, you will surely miss one opportunity after another in the future. Why? Because you didn’t let your past failure to become your motivation to change your thinking. You cannot keep on waiting for more opportunities, either; you should create opportunities for yourself, which is only possible when you grow up.
There is no way you can change the result of the things that happened in the past. If you failed in your previous job, there is no way you can take it all back. What you can do is change the way you think about having a job and building a great career. Accept the fact that you may never find the most perfect career paths. Instead, focus on how you could make yourself perfect for the job. Always try to become a better you by making the necessary changes in your way of thinking.
Cecile Peterkin is a certified career and retirement coach, and a registered member of the Career Professionals of Canada and the International Coach Federation. She is also the Founder and Senior Career Strategist at Cosmic Coaching Centre, provider of career and life management services for middle managers and mid-career professionals across Canada, United States and Europe.