Love's secret is always lifting its head out from under the covers, "Here I am!"
—Rumi
Your bedroom should be a luscious retreat, a place that satisfies your every desire. It has the capacity to offer you a cozy bed to lie in for an afternoon nap, a love seat designed for you and your partner to curl up and read or perhaps a plush rug to enjoy an intimate or playful moment. It's important to know what you love! Only then can you place items you love in your bedroom. You must be conscious of what your bedroom is telling you. Is it encouraging you to relax or to work? Do you feel sexy when you close the door? What is your intention for your bedroom?
"If love wants to induce a man or woman to feel at home," says Peter Megargee Brown, "the nest must first be prepared." You may covet a fairy tale canopy or perhaps a modern Japanese style bed. You may desire a chair for reading with a table close by that holds your tea. You may want to create a space for morning yoga stretches or sit-ups. You may want a sun-filled window seat to read the paper or meditate. Plato says, "He who loves the beautiful is called a lover because he partakes of it." Whatever you love to do, hear, smell, taste or see, bring it into your bedroom and loving feelings will arise.
A room with an uplifting view offers inspiration and vision. Can you see trees, sky and clouds outside? If you don't have a pleasant view, you must hang a piece of art that replicates looking out a window. Nature scenes such a beach, waterfall, pond or flowers are a good choice. Likewise, if you live in the city and your view consists of all man-made buildings, you might do the same. You could also hang a beautiful stained glass in the window to camouflage any unsightly view, whether it is a building, street or construction site.
Color and lighting is an important ingredient adding to the sensuality of the room. Accent lights such as table lamps, upward facing wall sconces and candles promote intimacy and the right mood. Use dimmer switches when possible. Another idea is to use colored light bulbs. Pink opens the heart, red stirs up excitement and blue calms the spirit.
The bed is the playground for passion and comfort. Therefore, it must be in a good location and bursting with loving energy. Make sure your headboard is on a solid wall and not directly under exposed beams. In addition, the mattress holds the energy of the people sleeping on it. If you had a long term past relationship that you are no longer involved in, you might want to invest in a new mattress. It is difficult to invite new, harmonious love into your life if you are still sleeping in the energy of your past lover.
When you get married, it is important to start your new life with a fresh bed and linens. Choose fabrics that are soft and encourage snuggling. Linens with a high thread count are best. You want to create the right energy for you and your partner to deeply connect in every way possible. Soulful and passionate sex arises when emotional walls are removed, gratitude is palpable, desire is fulfilled and there is a merging of hearts and bodies.
For feng shui consultant Jayme Barrett, author of the best-selling book Feng Shui Your Life, creating an inspiring space can enrich your life with energy, harmony and prosperity. Jayme Barrett is a leading authority on Inspired Living and Feng Shui, specializing in techniques for personal fulfillment, prosperity and integrated health.
In addition to improving clients' home and work spaces, Jayme leads workshops worldwide and has appeared in home-design segments for “The Today Show,” NBC, HGTV, Style Network, and E! Entertainment. Her work and writing has been featured in national newspapers and magazines, including Self Magazine, Health, ELLE, Body + Soul, Woman's World, First for Women, Parents, Healing Lifestyles and Spas, Redbook, Delicious Living, Yogi Times, and Healthy Living Magazine.
Jayme lives in Los Angeles and is available for residential and commercial feng shui consultations. For more information on books, personal consultations or to sign up for her free newsletter, visit www.jaymebarrett.com.