My clients are generally the biggest of the big in their respective industries. Each of them has created massive success. Yet the process they used to get there often seems inapplicable to the other aspects of life like happiness or peace. The process is the same. You must create structures, systems, disciplines and processes that make your happiness automatic. Here are three tips that will start you on this process.
1. Gratitude. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to look for what is wrong and try to fix it, kill it or avoid it. The Drunk Monkey does not spend any time looking at what works. What works is not a threat and therefore deserves little of your minds attention. Yet focusing on what works is a powerful discipline that creates automatic happiness.
2. Acceptance. Dr David Hawkins Author of Power vs. Force says, “Acceptance is the great healer of strife, conflick and upset.” The Drunk Monkey does not spend time accepting. The Drunk Monkey’s job is to notice differences and declare things that are unfamiliar a threat. The Drunk Monkey uses negative emotions to move your body away from what is unknown, different, strange, unusual. To achieve automatic happiness you must practice questioning The Drunk Monkey’s motives. By seeking to accept you instanly go into a peaceful happy place.
3. Self Examination. When you see The Drunk Monkey (your mind) for what it really is, just an unexamined accumulation of reactions, you start to question everything it is doing. Every client I work with is taught to question everything The Drunk Monkey says. Stop believing in your thoughts. When you do, happiness becomes your natural state. Steven Sadleir author of Looking For God says, “Anything other then happiness and peace is just a state of mind.”
Today consider that your life has structure that creates feelings you never designed. With awareness comes flexibility. When you start being more flexible, new options appear. Options give you power. When you feel empowered, you feel happy. Awareness is the key.
Matthew Ferry a Life Coach,The Life Coaching Company Matthew Ferry International offers life coaching, law of attraction and dozens of training products and seminars relating to the law of attraction to help you find your passion and love your life.