What Is Holding You Back?

© 2014 Susan Fox
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Many people say they’d love their life better if only things were different. Have you ever thought that idea yourself? Do you say, “As soon as (something happens) THEN I’ll be happy!” Well, the good news is that you can be happy right now…if you choose.

People who feel overwhelmed in life often also feel worried they are powerless to change things for the better. But the truth is, with small changes virtually anyone can experience big life improvements.

We behave in particular ways by first thinking specific thoughts. The brain and mind are similar to the world’s most sophisticated computer and computer software. Your thoughts are the software for your computer brain. If you FEEL happy, you send thoughts from your mind to your brain to create that feeling in your physical body. CHOOSING to feel happy is how you succeed here on earth.

Are you feeling stuck in life? If so, think encouraging, uplifting, constructive thoughts and move forward.

So what’s the hang up?
Why do many people resist change, even if we believe it will bring desired improvements? Well, it’s actually a brain thing. The brain likes familiarity. Even habits that cause us to act against ourselves feel familiar. Healthy or unhealthy thinking habits feel familiar and mentally comfortable to us. So, your success all boils down to choosing happy thoughts and acting out your life roles according to those thoughts.

Someone might ask you, “Why haven’t you (gotten a better job, gone back to school, asked the boss for a raise, found your soul mate, etc.,) yet?” Those kinds of questions may cause you to tense up your neck and shoulder muscles as you make excuses for failing to achieve your goals. But that doesn’t help you make your world a better one.

When you think certain thoughts, you may often also create what’s called a metaphor. A metaphor is a thought pattern that represents something meaningful to you. If it’s meaningful enough, your subconscious mind will NOT give it up until you bring in some new viewpoints about the metaphor.

For example, you might feel afraid that by being a business success you open yourself up to being criticized by jealous others. If this is true for you, you may hold yourself back in your professional life.

Or, you might feel afraid to fail in your business. If this is true for you, you may want to avoid feeling disappointed or disappointing others important to you. This learned behavior again, can keep you from being a success in your professional life.

The terms “criticism” and “disappointment” are NOT physical things that can actually come and attack you or physically threaten you. But in your mind, you might have learned to create an illogical association or mental link with the words “criticism” and “disappointment” wanting to avoid them as if they are a physical threat to you. You may have conditioned your mind to believe that being a success may be a dangerous risk for you.

Embracing change can be difficult if you initially associate emotional pain for doing it. Change means you must disrupt your usual routine to do something different from what’s familiar and in your comfort zone. But how are you defining “comfort zone?” You could be stuck in a metaphorical thinking trap.

Adopting change might also mean changing or ending relationships, even abusive ones. You may convince yourself you don’t have the energy to review the value in your relationships right now. However, if you’re mentally abusing yourself and acting against your own best interests, now is exactly the right time to review your relationships. Once you decide if the relationship is a healthy one, you might be able to clarify if that relationship needs to stay the same or needs changing.

If you already feel overwhelmed with your everyday agenda, and don’t want to take on any more life responsibilities, you’ll excuse yourself from making changes…even the ones you know will be good for you in the long run.

Can You Relate To Resisting Change Right Now?
Let’s talk about the one main benefit of change. Change can be good for you. Instead of staying in a confusing, complacent, fearful rut, simplifying your life can be a real blessing. So what’s a simple way to stop living in such chaos? It starts by changing your viewpoint of what the relationship really means to you.

What Can You Do To Make Your World a Better One?
Change the metaphor in your head you’ve been using to hold yourself back from enjoying life. It’s free, it’s simple and fast.

Okay, well how do you do that? It begins by understanding how you define the value in the relationship. Start thinking new thoughts. Thinking different thoughts is one simple thing that can help you move forward in life.

For example, for your business, do you feel afraid to get the visibility and publicity you really need to keep your business in front of your target market? If so, what’s that fear based in? Is it fact or opinion?

Every time you become consciously aware you are resisting life-improving change by saying a “n’t” contraction word (can’t, won’t, shouldn’t wouldn’t, etc.) simply say what you WILL do or what you DO like. Instead of saying, “I can’t do that!” instead state what you WOULD be willing to do. By focusing on what you WILL do, you will find change easier to embrace.

Something else you can do is understand how your brain thinks. In my book, Brainview: What Does Your Brain Think of You?, you can understand your brains unique viewpoints. It is by these viewpoints that you create metaphors that hold you back or encourage you on to greatness.

You have a significant contribution to make for this world to be a better world. Your story is unique compared to all other people on the planet. I specialize in helping people tell their story to position their products and services as the #1 authority in their niche. This helps you get more clients, have fun in your business and enjoy your work. Contact me at yoursecretwishes@gmail.com and let’s work together to get your story told! The world is waiting for you because you do make a huge difference in life!

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