Building a Healthy Self Image in Your Child
Your child's self image is their mental foundation of who they are. A self-assured child is confident, secure, happy, well-adjusted and successful and when they think of themselves that is what they believe about themselves. They can solve problems that come their way and are resilient. This kind of self image thrives under a loving parent's nurturing care. If they don’t have enough of that the media and peers tend to dictate what kind of image is ‘cool’. Then, if your child doesn’t see him or herself like that they feel like failures and their self image becomes distorted and negative.
What are some good ways to build a positive kind of self image in your child?
Most importantly, accept your child for who they are, and help them do the same. Teach your child that nobody is perfect, and that everyone makes mistakes. That everyone is different and has different strengths and weaknesses. Show them how to learn and grow from their mistakes, and let them know that you also make mistakes and find some things hard. Children with a strong self image are able to take lessons from mistakes and apply them down the road. A child with a low self image become frustrated and resorts to self-destructive behavior, such as calling themselves 'stupid' and vowing to 'never try that again.'
* Help your child discover their abilities and talents, and encourage outlets for them to build on and improve them.
*Praise a child not only for improvements in abilities and skills, but also for the traits they naturally possess.
*Encourage your child to make positive choices.
*Open an honest dialogue with your child and discuss the all the possibilities of any situation with them.
*Children who learn skills for making positive choices when they are younger are well-prepared for the tougher choices they have to make when they are older. They will soon develop a self image of someone who is a creative problem solver.
*Ensure that you spend lots of quality time with your child, at least once a week. Whether you are shooting hoops or going out for a run, take time to talk and keep in touch. If you find it difficult to squeeze in quality time during a hectic week, take the time to talk about things during the drive to school or while they are helping you put the groceries away. There is always time there if you prioritise this and your child will benefit for life if you do.
The Self Esteem Building Team of psychology professionals and parents has created a series of articles on Building Self Esteem in Your Child. The principles we write about work at home and for children you work with. Visit www.theselfesteemadvisoryservice.com for more suggestions, advice and recommended products and services. Or email us at admin@theselfesteemadvisoryservice.com We'll be glad to hear from you.