Things didn’t turn out how you planned them. You may be feeling shock, surprise, anger, overwhelm, confusion, fear, frustration, grief, worry, or sadness about how things went so terribly wrong. Rationally, you know that the longer you dwell on what you don’t want creates more of what you don’t want but this one was a doozy. How are you supposed to pick up your joy from the floor before the dust has settled? Okay, perhaps it’s not all that bad but you are really emotionally attached to what is going on. You don’t really want to be upset. This was a wonderful day before things went wrong. If you knew how, you would put all of this behind you and move on but those feelings don’t seem to be going away. Here are 4 quick tips for resetting your joy when it all goes wrong.
1. Stop Talking About All That Went Wrong
I know, I know! Yes, it was terrible. If you are going to reset your joy, you must stop talking about all that went wrong. I’m not suggesting you forget all about it forever. These things may need corrective actions or some discussion to resolve. That is best left to a time when cooler heads can prevail. Just for this moment, stop talking about all that went wrong. Change the subject. Start talking about something, anything else to give yourself some distance. Even if this was the center of your world, there are other things that you can talk about. Pick one. Preferably a happier topic and if you must talk, talk about that. If you can’t talk about anything else, it’s better to just be quiet than to keep stirring up your emotions. Breathe. Shhh. For your own sake, give it a rest.
2. Stop Listening To All That Went Wrong
If you are changing the subject, others may not be ready or willing to do so. The next step in resetting your joy when things go wrong is to stop listening to all that went wrong. If they insist on talking about it, then give yourself some space from them. Politely excuse yourself and go for a walk or do something else to remove yourself from what you are hearing. You might need to turn off the news coverage. You did know you could do that right? Just hit the off button on all the discussions and replays about what went wrong.
3. Stop Thinking About All That Went Wrong
Your thoughts create the atmosphere you live in. Imagine your joy creates an emotional atmosphere of sunshine and blue skies. Your negative thoughts create a mood that resembles a toxic cloud of acid rain and rusty nails. Yes, acid rain and rusty nails falling from the sky. Find something better to think about. Your joy can’t thrive at that environment. You need a brighter emotional altitude. Climbing to a higher space above the clouds does not make the clouds disappear. It does give you a different perspective. Remove yourself from those nasty fumes by thinking some sunny, clean, clear thoughts.
4. Authorize Your Access To Your Reset Button
Have you given yourself permission to reset your mood? Despite all that may be going wrong, you can allow yourself to have the power and authority to decide what you think about and how you feel. Yes, things happen and your response is your choice. Choose to cruise at an altitude where your joy can thrive. Fly above the toxicity. What you think, speak and listen to is impacting your joy. Choose to protect and strengthen your joy by flying at the right height. That way if it all goes wrong, you will know exactly how to hit the reset button.
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