It goes without saying that confident women can bear themselves better than those who have lower sense of the “self”. They are the achievers, the people of the limelight, the center of the society. They walk straight, speak their meanings very well and influence people, both subtly and obviously. In short, they are those who care recognizable even from afar.
Sometimes, self confident people are very much loved by the society. Maybe it is due to their charisma or they are, by nature very amiable. However, there are those self confident individuals who, just by leaving makes the room lighter.
These are two very dissimilar display of self confidence. One, destroys a person’s credibility and the other intensifies her personality. And obviously, you would not want the consequences of being too confident of yourself that the people no longer view you as effective, instead they see you as annoyance to their daily affairs.
Self confidence comes from within. Outside stimulation may help but it all still boils down to knowing yourself and using that knowledge to gain confidence.
To obtain self confidence, you must realize that your limitations must not limit you and your attributes must not destroy you. Instead, use all of these factors to develop a personality that would be productive for you and all those that surround you.
“Know thyself!”, says the Oracle at Delphi. Though this might have been said thousands of years ago, it is undeniably true that we still can use its wisdom.
Know yourself and be confident. Recognize though that knowledge comes nowhere but inside you. Thus, you have to accept the reality that unless you embrace you flaws and perfection, the demons of low self confidence would stay forever lingering in your being.
There is a great risk in knowing too much of yourself though if your foundations of self control is not much too developed. You would be exposed to your imperfections and since control is not yet yours, it is possible that you will be eaten by your own flows. This condition is closely intertwined with thought rumination wherein you seem to go around in your circle of thoughts about your losses and failures regardless of your achievements.
Another danger of having no control of yourself while trying to get self confidence is that you might get too confident that you would forget the real value of having the sense of self. As I mentioned earlier, over confidence is just as dangerous as having no confidence at all.
Knowing yourself is one factor that may either be dangerous or productive. Self awareness often times help people realize how wonderful their creation was. They learn to give worth to their capacities and attributes that are obviously as special as those that may be found with other people. We are all unique and that is a fact. Our marks of unique can be seen through closely looking at our capabilities and our incapacities. Our uniqueness is manifested on the natural gifts that add to our greater self value. Our uniqueness can be seen though our potentials that we may either ignore or maximize at will.
"Our lives are like the cycle of a butterfly. We are constantly changing and evolving into something that brings beauty into the world. Once our transformation is complete, our actions – even teh smallest ones – can have large effects on the rest of the world." ~ Melanie VanNuys