Hold On.. Or let go... - PART II

This excerpt provided by Anonymous may give you some long overdue peace of mind.

"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life."

The above excerpt is pointing out different decisions that we have made about our relationships. It is saying that by letting go is about loving yourself. When we let go of relationships, careers, or sending the children to kindergarten, day camp, college, into adulthood, and also into marriage and having families of their own, be sure to send each person or situation, a journey filled with good wishes. Thank each person for their love, their support, their guidance. Encourage them to do their best! Whether you realize it or not, each person that is currently in your life or to those that have come and gone, or yet to appear, has helped you to learn and grow.

By holding onto things or emotions causes us to feel miserable. So regardless if you are holding onto slacks that are several sizes too small or items from a relationship that ended some time ago, do yourself a favor and begin to remove those items from your life. Happiness comes from within. If you aren’t happy within, trust that no one and no-thing can make you happy. The only person that can make you happy is YOU!

Deciding to move forward is a willingness to let go. It’s Ok to take baby steps. Take each day, one at a time. The only reason we take baby steps is because we are afraid. Well, the truth of the matter is, when we love ourselves, is when real love begins. We can’t share with another something we don’t have for ourself. Instead of living in regret, begin each day with an intention to enjoy the day. Regardless if the ending includes a relationship, a job, leaving an organization, or perhaps leaving a community, how you feel about those endings is completely up to you. Remember, we get to choose how we feel at all times.

If you will take a moment and notice what you are holding onto about past situations, it will reveal a lot about your current situation. You are the only one that can give yourself permission to move forward. Give yourself permission to do something else…, to be something else, or to have something other than misery and unhappiness. If we are holding onto the past, we aren’t living in the present. If we are in a current relationship and still waiting for someone from a past relationship to return, we are not enjoying our present relationship. If we are in a job that we dislike, we aren’t enjoyable to be around. What we put out, is what we get back. Anytime we let go we always feel better.

Many folks have let go of their limiting beliefs and have successfully lost weight, quit smoking, and also overcame issues with their health or body image. Their sense of self esteem was greatly enhanced. Folks have increased their financial income without exerting more energy. Other folks have ventured into satisfying relationships at work and at home. And for some, letting go meant that they gave up their grief and sadness. For this reason alone, it is worthy to know that making better decisions can help us to let go of unhealthy emotions and expectations. Try it, you’ll like it!