For many single lesbian women meeting a potential partner is hard enough, but when you have a child the process can be even more difficult. When do you bring up the fact that you are a single mom? Do you allow your child to meet your potential new girlfriend? Here are five great online dating tips for lesbian moms.
Being open and honest on your online dating profile is probably the most important aspect when using an online dating site. Allowing your potential matches to see you as you really are is important. As a single mom, this becomes even more critical. Do not hide the fact that you have a child, but rather be upfront about it. This is not to be taken as though being a mother is a negative aspect to who you are. Some women have a problem dating those with children, while others embrace it. If the relationship ends up getting serious, the fact that you are a parent will come out at some point. Save yourself (and potential partners) the heartache and hassle of being honest from the beginning.
While utilizing the internet to meet lesbians can be exciting and fun, it is important not to focus all your time and energy into browsing profiles on the web. Remember to take time out to spend with your children. After all, they only stay little for so long. Try to keep a balance between searching for your new love and having fun with the "littlest" loves of your life -- your kids.
If you have been around online websites for long, you probably already know to take precautions when meeting someone new for the first time. However, it is extra important for single moms to remember this as well. Keep personal information (such as the name of your child's school, your address, etc.) private until you have had a chance to get to know the other person. In addition, always make sure your first meetings are in public places and that friends or relatives know where you are. While we like to believe that the person on the other end of the keyboard is trustworthy, it is still important to stay safe.
First and foremost, it is important to ask yourself if the woman you are considering as a possible partner is a good role model for your children. After all, if things work out they will be interacting on a regular basis. If you cannot answer this question as honest as possible without making excuses or feeling as though they are truly not, then it is possible that you have not met the right love interest yet. Remember, your children are a major part of your life and should be a major considering when you are making choices.
There is no hard rule on how fast you have to introduce a potential girlfriend to your children. In fact, it is usually best to wait until you know for sure that this woman will be in your life for a good period of time. Another good indication is that you feel that your children will gain insight, perspective, encouragement, and/or other knowledge by interacting with her. After all, it is the job of a mother to help raise their children by allowing them memories and experiences with others in order to gain worldly insight. If meeting your new significant other will allow them a positive role model in their lives -- with or without the status of your relationship -- feel free to introduce them.
While meeting lesbian singles as a single mom can be tough, it is doable. Just remember these useful tips and (most of all) have fun!
Linda Lynn is a writer that contributes to Cupid's Arrow which offers love advice for all those in search of their potential partner. If you would like to meet lesbian singles, visit LesbianCupid.com and begin searching for your partner in life.