Many people, especially well known coaches, high profile business leaders "posture" or pretend that they do not have drama or that they are not susceptible to drama. The reality is everyone experiences drama sooner or later.
Because of my private coaching, I have heard the secrets that you will never hear in public. In addition, I’ve been there too, and I realize the danger of believing you are “above it all.”
Here are four truths to help you confront and even welcome your drama.
1. Drama is part of life.
2. Drama keeps you real
3. Drama is a teacher
4. Overcoming drama leads to freedom
Drama is a part of life.
The definition for drama is “any obstacle to your peace or prosperity.” Unless you are a guru living on a remote mountain spending all of your time in meditation you are going to have some drama here and there. Yes, there will be times when you are in the flow and you think you have it all figured out. You are making money, your relationships are rewarding and your health is excellent. Then something happens and you start to feel unstable. The downward spiral begins. The good thing is that a little drama reminds you of your humanity.
Drama Keeps You Real
When things are going well it’s easy to get “high and mighty.” I’m sure you’ve seen it. Someone of extraordinary status starts boasting, judging and advising, then something happens. The stock market crashes, they lose their business, their spouse leaves them. Instead of gloating, just remember that all of us eventually come face to face with drama. Going through it yourself keeps you real and helps you build your compassion muscle.
Drama is a Great Teacher
Most drama is in the mind. You feel inadequate so you exaggerate your income. You worry that others will judge you because you lost your biggest client. You have a nagging feeling that you are never going to succeed and you are ashamed of the way you look. Could it be there are hidden lessons on self-acceptance or authenticity? Maybe your drama is trying to teach you not to confuse where you are with who you are. Your drama always has rich learning points if you are willing to look inward.
Overcoming Drama Leads to Freedom
When I first started my journey I hated my background. I struggled with my identity for the first three or four years even though I was speaking professionally. Eventually, facing your fears leads to freedom. Here are two questions:
1. What are you hiding?
2. What are you afraid of?
Are you hiding a business or relationship failure? Are you afraid you are not really good enough? Are you afraid you’ll be seen as a fraud? Are you secretly afraid of rejection?
The biggest fear most of us face is the fear of judgment. Judgment blocks prosperity and keeps you in a constant state of “mind drama.”
When you can be who you are without having to hide and without fearing the judgment of others then you have stopped your drama and you are free.
Marlene Chism is the founder of Stop Your Drama Methodology, an 8-part process to help business owners, and solopreneurs reinvent their lives and business. Marlene combines universal principles with sound business practices to bridge the inner and outer game of success. Marlene regularly speaks about the Stop Your Drama Methods on her Signature Series Calls.