Q: What do men really want from their partners during the Super Bowl?
A: Here is a man’s dream recipe. Mix a heaping cup of enthusiasm, support and interest with a quarter of a cup of knowledge. Add a generous portion of no interruptions or extraneous conversations of any kind. (No chatty conversations in the same room with the other non-football lovers). top it off with good munchies and a garnish of friends.
Q: What can women do to enjoy football more--especially if they just don't get the game?
A: Ask your partner ahead of time to explain the game to you—one more time. Ask less than a handful of key questions. Or, go on the Internet to learn more.
Q: How can women who really don't like football enjoy themselves, though?
A: Instead of dreading this day, regard it instead as your gift to your partner to be there for him. Consider going to a party with him, have a party or give him the green light to go with the guys on his own to party or sports bar. And don’t make him “pay” for it later by reminding him how generous you were. Reminders like that take away the joy of giving.
Q: What can women do to feel more like a part of the festivities?
A: Use this day to cook or bake your favorite recipes and serve them to your partner and friends.
If you are alone with your partner on SuperBowl Sunday, watch the game with him, but also do something else you need to do that you enjoy. Knit, sew, read magazines. Just being there with your partner as a companion is often very satisfying to men. However, make an effort to at least watch the game when your partner jumps up or calls out: “OMG…Watch this…You idiot…” and other expressions.
You might also invite another couple over where the women also doesn’t like football. Then the two of could spend some time with the guys and some time together.
Q: What should women avoid?
A: No matter what you do, don’t criticize, act like a martyr or remind your partner how much you hate football and are glad the day is over.
Q: What else can women do to feel connected to their partners?
A: Have great sex the night or morning before the Super Bowl.
Do something different or something you haven't done in a while. Have fun. Laugh. Experiment. Sex is great emotional glue.
LeslieBeth Wish is a Psychologist, Clinical Social Worker and author who is nationally recognized for her contributions to women, love, relationships, family, career, workplace, and organizations.
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