Relationships: How to Choose More Carefully

Many people spend so much time and energy
on their love lives, striving for the ideal
relationship. While self-love is the only true
love in our view, it’s understandable why the
feeling of being loved and accepted by another
is so desirable.

Along the path to finding compatible love,
everyone has their share of adverse relationship
experiences and some people are fated to have
more than others. Although challenging love
connections seem to only complicate your
life, in time it’s easier to see how they’ve
helped you learn and grow.

Sometimes the best path seems to be to go
forward with a challenging relationship even
if you are aware ahead of time that it could be
problematic. Other times a relationship may
seem wonderful at first, but then you realize
you didn’t know the person (or yourself) as
well as you thought you did, you end up
bringing out the worst in each other, or you
simply grow apart.

Our research and work firmly indicate
“negative” relationship situations are karmic.
Even so, ultimately you do have f.ree will to
react to the situations and conditions in your
life, and the more in tune with yourself you
are, the easier it will be to choose and
navigate your relationships with compassion
and understanding.

Self-Exploration, and Relationship Traditions

If you avoid self-exploration and solitude at
all costs, and you place great importance on
relationship traditions, it will be much more
difficult for you to avoid the bad apples and
emotionally, physically, mentally, financially
and, or psychically draining relationships. A
fear of being alone and an avoidance of self-
analysis will cause you to overlook obvious
signs and become involved with or remain
with people who, all things considered, work
against you.

As discerned through astrological and
numerological comprehensive charting
methods, handwriting analysis, and psychic
insight, some people are born much more
relationship oriented, with scarce emotional
independence (or are even prone to
codependence). Hence, situations involving
unhealthy relationships decisively manifest
as part of their predestined path. Though
even in these cases, they have the option of
using f.ree will to make the most of it all.

If you fit into this category, one possible
remedy to help limit toxic relationships is
having goals that supersede “The One” ideal.
School, career, your children, fitness,
volunteering, hobbies, or other such things on
which to focus your time and energy could help
you make better decisions in your love life by
helping you to detach and view it all from a
higher perspective. At the same time, we’ve
found that people will do as they are fated to do
time and time again, but at least awareness can
assuage dilemmas and you can work within
your destined framework for more desirable
effects.

Knowing Thyself and Meditation

If you are one of the few who know themselves
very well on levels other than conscious
understanding, or meditate regularly to the point
of consistently experiencing divine insights,
you’ll be able to perceive quite a bit about
potential matches before getting involved with
them. This will also give you a head start in how
you approach and respond to people and
situations in your life, allowing you to use your
f.ree will more constructively.

For example, after meeting a new relationship,
friendship, or employment possibility, you’ll be
able to more easily pause, step back, contemplate
the situation, and consider if it’s worth the time
and energy and if it would be supportive of your
goals. But maybe you’re also wise enough to
know that one’s heart can interfere with
decision-making.

Metaphysical Tools, Advisors, and Eremites

If you consult with a metaphysical advisor or
even actively apply tools such as astrology,
numerology, handwriting analysis, or tarot, or
work with dream analysis, for example, you
may know quite a bit about potential matches
even before you meet them. Higher than
average psychic abilities can also allow you
to perceive the “good” and “bad,” or at least
what you need to know, about people and
situations ahead of time. Unfortunately, this
may often cause you to be forced to decide
between the complexities of the connection and
being alone, and remaining single may seem
like the better choice more often than not.

This dynamic could partially explain
why “wise women,” “old sages,” and other
mystically inclined individuals are often
depicted as living alone, such as in the forest
or on a mountain top; they see beyond the
surface, detect the spiritual reasons at the start,
and opting out might seem more appealing. Of
course, they may also be alone because they
enjoy it, their collective natal and timing
indications symbolically choose this for them,
they are simply taking a break between
relationships, or they have so many friends
(guides, spirits, etc.) in the unseen dimensions
that taking on ones in the here and now may
seem unnecessary or pose too much of a
burden.

There will always be “good” and “bad” apples in
the barrel of your love life and in the rest of your
life. Expanding your awareness will help guide
you to make smarter choices, and when the only
option is a connection that lacks a reasonable
level of compatibility, use your f.ree will to
accept where you are and navigate to a better
place. Although due to your personal fate, you
may not be able to manifest more desirable
circumstances right away, but eventually you’ll
be able to make the best of even the most trying
times.

Copyright © Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo