3 Obstacles in building self-confidence

Know what’s holding you back.

It’s great that you have decided to build your self-confidence.
However, there are a few obstacles that can keep you from
achieving your goal. Most of the time, these obstacles are so
obvious that they do not seem like obstacles at all, and all you
can see is that your resolve to be self-confident is not taking
you anywhere.

Therefore, it is important to become aware of these
seemingly harmless obstacles that have all the power to stop you
in your path. Let’s have a look at what could be the reasons that
you are not moving ahead in top gear.

Are you undisciplined?
Some people simply have the talent to waste a lot of time without
realizing it. They lack the self-discipline to stop their actions
that waste time. Imagine a situation wherein you have a list of
tasks to be completed successfully as a part of your confidence
building program. However, the moment you enter your home you
involuntarily grab the remote and start channel surfing on the
idiot box.

It’s only after an hour that you realize that you have
been vegetating in front of the t.V in the time you had scheduled
to do other tasks. You realize that you have already disturbed
your schedule. In a self-development program, it’s you and only
you who has the power to change yourself. Nobody will come to
monitor your actions and progress. You have to keep a watch on
your inner graph and see to it that it goes up! Avoid temptations
and stick to your schedule.

Are you lazy and keep procrastinating?
Procrastination is one of the greatest and most silent killers of
confidence.

It does not let you complete your jobs and tasks in
time; things keep mounting and finally you get overwhelmed by all
the many things that have piled up and need your attention. The
very basics of building confidence start with listing little
things that are doable. You gain more confidence to take on
greater tasks and responsibilities by successfully completing the
lighter tasks at hand.

However not being prompt and delaying
important things till they become urgent makes you miss the
opportunity of working on your confidence and puts you in danger
of falling back again into your earlier cycle, thereby wasting
all the effort and energy you had put in to becoming aware of
your low confidence trap and getting out of it.

Does your old self keep pulling you back?
Assume. Assume. Assume is the technique here. Assume that you are
a different person with habits you wanted to inculcate. Imagine
the way you would like to be. Imagine a self-confident you taking
things in your stride. Then try to bring into your daily actions
the way you have imagined yourself to be. “I dream by painting.
Then I paint my dream” was the technique what the great painter
vincent van gogh followed.

Your assumed self will make people
react to you in a different way, according to your new self. This
will establish your new self to the world and will help you keep
up the new self before it becomes a habit - a second nature! If
you behave indecisively and helplessly, you will invoke
proportionate reactions from people around you, thereby
reinforcing your previous self.

This throws you back again.

Remember that you cannot get ahead if you keep looking back.
Realize this and stop sliding back.

Don’t copy self-confidence. Do not try to become like someone
else.
One of the greatest mistakes that people make when trying to
increase their low self-confidence is falling in love with an
image of their icon who may be a sport star or a film star or any
celebrity and then they try to be like them. This is one of the
greatest mistakes that people can commit when trying in increase
their self-confidence.

You have to be yourself at all costs.
Getting inspired is wonderful but merely aping these guys won’t
take you anywhere. There is no need for any two people in this
universe to be exactly the same. The challenge is to be yourself
in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else!

Create a vision of YOUR life, and take action everyday.
That’s it.