What to say when you are too tired for sex.
There are three things to say when you are too tired for sex.
1. Say something polite, nice or caring.
Thanks for asking, but… (can state reason)
I’m glad you asked, but… (can state reason)
2. State your alternative.
I’d rather…
I prefer…
3. Or suggest an alternative
Would you like to…? E.g. Would you like to cuddle instead?
How about…? E.g. How about if we put time aside after the football match?
Why not ____ instead? E.g. Why not I finger you to orgasm tonight?
There, you have it: Three things you could say when you are too tired for sex. Try it and let me know how it goes for you.
Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.