An orgasm is not just a physical experience, it happens in your body, mind, possibly even spirit. And there is no single definition of orgasm. Some tell tale signs of an orgasmic response might include increased heart rate and blood pressure, increased muscle tension, a flush of her skin, as well as a release of tension followed sometimes by a feeling of deep relaxation. On the other hand, she might experience one or several of these things and not “feel” she had an orgasm. Trying to figure out if she had an orgasm can also be a dead end. If she had one, does that mean you stop exploring other ways of getting her to feel good or have orgasms?
Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.