If sex is so fantastic why don’t we have it more often!
Who’s ever been too busy for sex?
Who’s ever been too tired for sex?
Who can’t remember when they last had sex?
It’s time now, to look at the “sexcuses” which get in the way of us enjoying regular sex.
Let’s look at the top sexcuse. The Sexual TABOO!
When I ask people who come for sex therapy, “What did your parents teach you about sex?” can you guess what they say?
They were taught nothing! Sex was TABOO!
Some fathers even turned off the TV if there were people kissing!
So let’s take away the taboo and have permission to have sex.
(Just so long as it doesn’t hurt your spirit, mind, heart and body.)
It’s so easy for some people to make sexcuses!
For instance: One man complained that his partner was never ready for sex: If she hadn’t had a shower she was too dirty and if she had, she was too clean!
Here’s the most common sexcuses:
Taboo
No time
Too tired
Too tense
Can’t switch on/off
Bad technique
Too old
Children
Partner Problems
While it is true that children are not an aphrodisiac, it’s also true that you are never too old to think about or have sex. It’s sad that society thinks that old people should be finished with sex. I saw a lady who injured her back in a car accident and lost her ability to have an orgasm. When she complained about this to her lady doctor she was told “Oh well you are 50 now so you don’t need to enjoy sex”.
Now a common sexcuse is caused by Partner Problems!
We need to be AWARE of MALE FEMALE DIFFERENCES.
CAUTION – TIMING IS EVERYTHING!
The truth is, women are happy to have sex if the timing is right
This point is especially crucial for guys to understand.
Woman do love sex, but they need to share quality time first with their man, in order to want to have sex with him.
For women, sex starts in the kitchen. This means she wants you to come talk to her about her day and her feelings FIRST.
The solution for sexcuses is to communicate and negotiate agreements.
If the brain is the most important sexual organ
The tongue is the most important sexual tool!
You’ve got to talk about sex – OUTSIDE the bedroom.
Dr. Janet Hall is a psychologist, hypnotherapist, sex therapist, author, professional speaker, trainer, and media consultant. Jan consults regularly with print media and is a frequent guest on talk-back radio and current affairs shows.
Jan was a regular for two years on the Sex Life television program in Australia. Her user-friendly strategies offer practical solutions to sexual and relationship issues so that you can have the love and the sensational sex that you deserve. Jan has a unique ability to encourage people to clarify their situation and solve their own problems with both heart (trusting intuition and feelings) and head (with logical analysis and rational prioritization). She believes that people deserve to feel empowered and allow themselves to be the best they can for the good of all. Jan has a happy knack of making psychology user friendly.
Dr Janet Hall