For the days that you don't feel "Fabulous"

I am sure that there will be days that you feel anything, but fabulous.  It happens to me all that time, but the thing that I have to remember is that even if I don't feel like it doesn't mean that I am not still fabulous!  It is so easy to get caught up in the ups and downs of life and forget.  When God created me, you and everyone else He wanted, and still does, for us to be fabulous and so much more! For a long time my insecurities did not mix well with the things in my life that were out of my control that I would struggle to regain some semblance of it no matter who I hurt in the mean time.  Of course I was so wrapped up in myself that I did not even realize that I was hurting anyone else.  I would even get my feelings hurt if that person objected because again that was me being afraid that I was anything but "perfect".  Growing up I thought that in order for anyone to love me I had to be perfect, take care of everyone else and do everything that I could to maintain that control.  If things weren't going right I had to figure out what I could do to make it right.  I would get so wrapped up in my head that I did not realize that I was "running" the people that I love away. For example, for a while  my husband, Tony  and I were working full time in a business venture and while I had a lot of head smarts by "street smarts" well, left a lot to be desired.  I was also not very objective because I was so passionate about what we were doing that a lot of times I could not see the forest for the trees.  I always had to put my "two cents" worth into any conversation and a lot of times my two cents weren't worth a plug nickel.  The more out of control that our business would get the more I felt that I had to "figure out" how to fix it.  Anything that was not going according to plan I would literally  squeeze the situation to death, no wonder there were times that I felt like I was loosing my mind; because I am sure that there were times that I almost did.  Tony was able to look at things a little more objectively, but it was very hard for me to see that what he was suggesting was not "wrong" it just was different than my point of view. Here are a few things that I learned from this situation:

1. It can be very stressful to work with your spouse or significant other 24/7, so very important that you have a time to work and a time not to work.  This is vital or you both will just associate each other with the things that are not going right.
2. I learned is the importance of Communication.  Remember that you have two ears and one mouth use accordingly.  Communication is not all about you talking and waiting for the other person to shut-up or what's worse not even paying attention to the other person and just talk, talk , talk.
3. Another part of communication is the things that you see.  This is a biggie, if I would have seen the affect that some of my actions would have had maybe things would have been different.  I know that when things get crazy as they often will it is hard to pay attention to the things that are around you.

There is nothing wrong with being passionate about the things in your life and by having someone who has a vested interest in the outcome makes it even better.  God has put you together with that person for that very purpose. As a matter of fact the Bible says:
20 For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them ~Matthew 18:20


So what does that mean?  We are God's children, He wants us to be happy, successful, loved.  When something is placed in our heart that we are passionate about where do you think that came from?  Something like that comes from God!  So when He gives two people something to be passionate about and they both use their God given talents and strengths to accomplish that goal that He has given them, they are working  with God in the midst of them and they are certain to be blessed.  I do not believe that your partner "completes"  you, but I do believe that God puts you together for a purpose and that those  talents that God has given each of you will complement the other. So than what, where do you go from here?  Maybe things are not going the way that you think that they should and the best thing to do now is to turn to God and say "I can't do this anymore, you deal with it!".  Sometimes it even helps to cup your hands envision the problem in your hands and than symbolically toss it up to Him.  If you find yourself worrying about it again toss it up to Him again.  It doesn't mean that this interchange wont happen a million times before you finally stop taking it back but if you let Him, God will take care of it.

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.  Each day has enough trouble of its own. ~Matthew 6:25-34- NIV

Learning that I do not have control and that is okay because God is in control of my life and the only thing that I have to do is seek Him and love Him and He will take care of the rest is the most amazing thing that I have ever realized.  Does it work 100% of the time?  No, but the instant that I realize that I am trying to control the world around me and worry about things I give it to God.  Sometimes it can be a battle or I get impatient because I want things to happen immediately, but these are all things that I am working on.  Am I perfect?  No way and the best part is that I have learned that I don't have to be! That is God's Job!

Fabulously yours,