It has been said over and over again that in order to grow and improve your self-esteem you must step outside the imaginary boundaries of your comfort zone. This increases anxiety but with positive self-talk you can overcome and face all your challenges head on thus moving forward.
One of the most important ways to take this giant step in your journey is to learn to forgive. Forgiving others who have wronged you takes patience and perseverance. Find out the root of the wrong and understand that that person only acted towards the situation the best she/he could, given the tools she/he was taught during their lifetime. Once you have embraced the forgiveness and find closure you will be able to release the pain and step forward in your life’s path.
Next it is just as important for you to learn to forgive yourself for what ever choices you decided to make and the mistakes they might have lead to. You too only made the choices you have made based on the tools you had to use to make those tools. Each mistake is no a failure but a learning situation. So grab all the vital positive teachings that this challenge has opened up to you. Then forgive yourself and put the mistake where it belongs – in the past. Put your mistake in a small black box. Attach a beautiful helium balloon in a color that you adore. Set your mistakes adrift off into the horizon and watch the box float over the horizon and out of your life. Wash your hands of these negative and toxic choices they now are out of your life. March onward in your journey and search for your dreams and desires guilt free and absolved of all you have been chastising yourself for. You have now released the strings of guilt that strangle your heart.
This is not easy and it takes time and practice but start slowly with one action or person at a time and then move on to others when you are comfortable to do so.
-List everyone you wish to forgive
-One at a time – Reflect on WHY/WHAT the situation with each person that caused the turmoil – be honest with yourself as to the source of the problem.
-After realizing the source, then embrace that the situation happened, learn its lesson and forgive that person for the conflict – remember they acted the way they did because of the tools they had to use at that particular time in their life..
-Bless that person’s existence (as hard as that may be to do) as they were in your journey to teach you valuable lessons. Take those lessons and grow.
-Let GO!
Enjoy the process – forgiveness then leads to gratitude but that is a whole other blog. So get comfortable with forgiving; you will love how you feel each time you accomplish this feat.
Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. -Mark Twain
Enjoy life and breathe in every moment!
Tamara Elizabeth is a certified self love and transformational coach and Master Motivator of women in transition. She empowers women to look into the mirror and reflect the fabulously lovable selves. She is the author of an inspirational book for women titled,” Fabulously Fifty and Reflecting It! –Discovering My Lovable Me. All women are invited to join her as a guest on her radio talk show – Talk To Tamara Today. This is a platform where women in transition and professionals coaching them have a chance to share their journeys and learn from others how to heal their wounds and jump back into the ring. She strives to find the humor in life and you will find your experience very positive – the ride of your life. http://moximize.me