Flipping Out About Money

I’m one of those people who is either super happy, really at peace, having a blast or highly stressed. Whatever I do, I do it big. I’m not proud of it, it just is. I’m always a little surprised when I get wound up about something negative because in general I live knowing that all is well. Except when I forget.

There was a period of time when I was really flipped out about money. I would spontaneously cry from the stress of not having any money and going deeper into debt each day. I was not only reminded each day about my lack of money but usually many times throughout the day. It was a vicious cycle.

Looking back on that time of my life I see there is only one reason I got stuck in that rut, I didn’t think I could do anything about it. I didn’t have solutions jumping out at me saying, “Pick me, pick me! I’m going to solve your money issues.” So, I changed nothing about my perspective toward money. I didn’t even try to do anything different. My insides were a wreck because I was flipping out.

What’s funny is that when I finally turned my situation around, I still didn’t know the solution. However, I felt committed to finding it. That empowered me enough to have hope. That hope slowly led me back to my confidence. Soon, the solutions were popping everywhere. Nine months later I was out of debt and had doubled my income.

A happy ending after two years of craziness.

I’m not sure what we think we’ll accomplish from flipping out. Think about children. When they have a tantrum do you really feel like giving them what they want? Does yelling work to get them out of their fit? Can you pressure or guilt them into happiness in that moment?

The only thing that works with my son is soothing. I hold him. I tell him I love him. And slowly he comes around. It’s a much quicker process than becoming irritated at him, trying to talk “sense into him” or any of the other things I’ve tried or watched other parents do.

Soothing is the key to manifesting money fast, too. You have to open your heart to hear the truth. When someone tells you it’ll all work out, believe them. It’s true. Allow yourself some time to flip out and then get busy doing the internal work on your wealth set point. It never fails. As soon as you calm yourself down for a short period of time, you’ll see an opening in your financial dark cloud.

Soothe, soothe, soothe. Be nice to yourself. All financial crises’ can be temporary. It just depends on how long you flip out. I’ve soothed many clients over the years and eventually it dissolves their fears and they make a financial comeback.

We all have the right to choose any reaction we want when dealing with a tough situation. I suggest giving your highly charged emotions some way to vent. Writing about them, exercising, yelling in your car with the windows rolled up or whatever your preferred method is for blowing off steam. Then move forward, one step at a time, into a new frame of mind.