While we all feel the need to be loved and enjoy good company and relationships there comes a time when we are getting attention from someone or have been seeing someone that we are not really interested in. Either we were never interested in them in the first place or we have had a relationship with them and enjoyed seeing them and now things have changed. How to dump an admirer is a whole new thing because they may genuinely be decent and nice but just not of interest to you. You need to temper being firm with being fair and kind and sticking to your decision.
When it is the unwanted attentions of an admirer that we have never had a relationship some might say this is flattering, but if we are already in a relationship or they are not our type it can become a nuisance. If you are in a relationship already and your unwanted suitor knows this then they are totally out of order for trying to get together with you and should be respecting that you are already spoken for. When you are single then they will be tempted to assume that you are available and therefore will want them and any encouragement you give them, even a simple friendly gesture, a kind word or a smile, can be taken as encouragement that you are interested. It is better then to avoid the person whenever you can and if you are unable to to speak to them or be with them for as little time as possible. When you cannot avoid it altogether then be curt and frosty if you can see that this is needed to show your admirer that you are not interested. The more curt and frosty you are the quicker they will lose interest. Do not do or say anything that may lead them on.
When the hopeful lover knows you have a partner and still continues to show they want to date you or be with you then not only are they disrespecting the set up you are already in but they are a potential threat to your relationship. They do not care if they hurt you, your partner or your relationship, which shows a very selfish and callous streak. It is better then to be quite black and white about how you feel and tell them straight that you are spoken for (even if you are not happy with your partner). If they carry on pestering you or trying it on with you then according to the circumstances either threaten to tell their partner, threaten to tell your partner, threaten to tell the boss, do whatever it takes to get rid. They have shown you no respect so do not deserve any of the diplomatic softly gentle approach. Anyone who would try it on with someone who is spoken for is rather tacky and sleazy and may well have done it with others before you.
Rosemary Price knows that a serial womaniser or flirt may have a reputation for chatting up and trying it on with people. It is verly likely that they see you as a challenge if you are not eager to say yes or have someone else. They may even not be at all interested in you as a person and just want another conquest to boost their low self esteem. The likelihood is that if they could get you into bed or feel that they have got you where they want you they tire of it and move on. They may seem exciting and charming but you never really know what they are thinking or planning and they are totally unreliable and immature. Even if they are totally single and seem very keen and you are tempted remember that they have a string of failed relationships and broken hearts behind them. By a leading life coach and relationship expert, at http://www.webclairvoyant.com. Famous psychic and clairvoyant Rosemary Price
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