SABOTAGING SELF?
How are you sabotaging yourself?
"If you play it safe in life you've decided that you don't want to grow any more." --
Shirley Hufstedler
How are you sabotaging you’re potential for change?
We unconsciously use defense mechanisms to shield us from situations we perceive to be scary or painful. A part of you may want to grow and change, but another part may be resisting because change always moves you into new territory in your thinking and emotions.
If you find you are getting anxious, fearful, angry, frustrated, dismissive or unmotivated, then defense mechanisms are at work. Watch for them and know them to be signs of fear that wants to hold you back. Then courageously move through them.
"I have never been contained except I made the prison." -- Mary Evans
Once again, my mentor Dr. Randin Brons shares a very thought provoking article in his weekly Idea Engineer. Please give the question some thought.
In my daily work (and volunteer life) I come across so many people who self sabotage, and it is obvious that they are doing it.
They identify a problem that is really negatively impacting their lives and state they would like to solve it and move forward.
A path to achieving their goal is outlined and then the excuses for not taking action start. “I can’t afford it”, “I already know what the problem is”, “I haven’t got time”, “I can fix it myself”, “I have a friend that….” or even an honest “I’m afraid of what I might find”.
You’re reading this article for a reason. Many of you have a good idea that you are sabotaging your own happiness and know you must make change. Why let fear- however it manifests itself- hold you back?
While I do coach people to achieve the changes that want, I am also prepared, as a service, to spend time with people who just want to discuss life change, transformation and recovery. Where you go from that chat is up to you. Do you not deserve, as a priority, the life you are capable of living? Have courage!
How are you sabotaging your life?
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Keith Bray is a Master Certified Addictions Life Coach coaching client success.