We recently spoke to sex a doll owner, who chose to remain anonymous. We asked one simple question: Why do you have a sex doll and does the stigma not bother you?
“There’s a lot of keyboard warriors out there… I shrug it off pretty easily to be honest, but I do wish they had a little better understanding and knew a little more about sex dolls before expressing their thoughts. People have their own opinion, that’s fair enough, but they can really get it wrong when they cast judgement over doll owners…
I personally have nothing but admiration for the human form in all shapes and sizes… I don’t view dolls necessarily as a way to objectify humans, they are a celebration of the human form. All this talk of sex doll objectifying women just isn’t true… Is a dildo an objectification of a man? I’d say the argument is pretty strong, I mean, you take a whole man, a throw away everything except his cock, and you’ve got a dildo… If sex dolls are objectification, then what’s a dildo? I just think people like stirring things up sometimes, trying to get attention.
I can’t speak for everyone who owns a doll, but I can talk from my own perspective. And what I notice is that lots of people don’t realise how much we really humanise our dolls. We give them them names, personalities and feelings. Some even give them social media accounts and their own bedroom in the house… Our dolls talk, live and breathe through our imagination, it’s role play in a way, role play that helps us feel connected.
I honestly believe that the criticism that’s thrown around actually comes from a lack of understanding. Assumptions are made, and they’re often just not accurate. I don’t want to sound too “out-there”, but some of us actually develop genuine feelings towards our dolls. They become more that just their material parts, it’s difficult to explain to someone who hasn’t owned a doll before, but the whole experience is really quite incredible.
I actually helped a good friend of mine last year, by recommending him a sex doll. It may sound unusual, but he was going through a difficult time in his life and I knew from my own experience how much my doll helped me when I was going through a rough patch. I bite the bullet and told him about it…We spoke for hours, the next day he went online and ordered his new companion. I made sure he went to the right place, there are lots of dodgy companies out there, but there are some genuinely amazing companies out there that are committed to helping people like us. Silicone Lovers for example, were amazing when I bought my first doll. I had support throughout the whole process, which is admittedly a bit scary at first…
My friend ended up thanking me months later, telling me how much his doll was helping him through it all… people don’t realise that dolls can be a stepping-stone to healing and re-connecting.
I know it’s not for everyone, but if people understood that they are not always just for masturbatory purposes (which by the way is nothing to be ashamed of and is completely natural) and knew some of the other reasons people turn to sex dolls, perhaps there wouldn’t be a stigma attached at all. Connection, after all, is easier for some more than others. Why would you stigmatise a human for simply having a desire for connection?”
I shrug it off pretty easily to be honest, but I do wish they had a little better understanding and knew a little more about sex dolls before expressing their thoughts. People have their own opinion, that’s fair enough, but they can really get it wrong when they cast judgement over doll owners.