My mother was 90 and her boyfriend was 100 (My dad had died 8 years prior).
They had been videotaped and the video was on YouTube about sex in older age. They also interviewed a much younger couple that was 85 and 83.
Both couples met at the assisted living residence and both were discussing their sexual relationship. Harry, my mother’s boyfriend said he wants to have sex twice a week but my mom wanted it once a week. He said when they make love, “I pass out, but it is a good pass out.” (LOL) It was truly a precious video and not surprisingly, it got a lot of views on YouTube.
My mother’s theme was that “90” and “100” are only numbers and they are free to enjoy each other as they wanted.
I am not sure exactly what Harry and my mom did when they made love, but they did something and they had sex of some kind.
If a 90 and 100-year-old can get it on, what about the rest of us that are not newlyweds anymore?
It is a gift that we can enjoy our sexuality and our bodies. Some people need to adapt and modify what they can and cannot do in the bedroom, but sex can continue long into our older years.
Rather than the actual “number of your age” be the problem, it is more likely getting stuck in non-intimate ruts day after day, week after week and year after year.
I have witnessed so many couples that after years of not having sex, they started again. Having great sex as you age requires three main things:
A bolder more courageous interpersonal vision
A willingness to go through a period of awkwardness as thy shift back to being lovers
Follow through and consistency
For those couples that have lost their sexual way, why settle for a non-sexual or barely sexual relationship when you can enjoy this gift?
Take a chance and invite your partner to be more intimate. Focus on connection and not performance.
If you need assistance with having great sex as you age, I can help. It is difficult to break from old patterns. Use me to help you reclaim your gift.
Yes, there are emotional barriers; however, you can overcome them. In most cases, you can rekindle your passion!
Here are some researched benefits for having great sex as you age:
Better cardiovascular health
Better immune system
Increased longevity and youthfulness
More intimate and closer relationship leading to more joy
More resilience in dealing with inevitable losses that older people experience
Check out either the Long Hot Marriage book, Good Communication = Great Sex or my other products that might help you continue to have great sex as you age here in my store.
And please don’t hesitate to contact me if you are curious about how I can assist you. I wish you the best!
Mr. Creager is educated and trained as a Marriage and Sex Therapist and spends much of his time helping partners in long-term relationships learn how to create passionate, alive and nourishing interactions. He provides unique and powerful insights that lead to powerful breakthroughs which result in his clients getting closer to realizing their full potential.
He founded his practice in 1982 in Tustin CA, and has since helped thousands of individuals and couples learn how to bring the best out of others to achieve their goals. The biggest joy in his career is witnessing clients increase their capacity to receive more from life as well as others.
He has developed the gift of helping couples and individuals move past their resistance to have the relationships and love they crave. His specialties include helping couples heal from infidelity, helping couples rekindle passion and helping individuals break free from their earlier toxic relationships and dysfunctional families. He does this in a variety ways including specialized programs that are powerful and effective as well as seminars, workshops, speaking and informational products.
Todd’s practice in Huntington Beach, CA has been helping couples and individuals all around Orange County including Long Beach, Newport Coast, Irvine, Corona del Mar and Seal Beach – for over 30 years!