What would it be like to throw yourself full-bodied and without restraint into love’s arms, to set the fear voices and inherited scripts that say, “Love isn’t safe” on the fence of your mind and walk through the tattered gates of your heart that are still trying to keep you safe?
What would it be like to recognize that every moment of irritation, resistance, lack of attraction, and doubt is a projection of your own place of “not enough”, to bundle up these manifestations of fear and toss them into night’s constellations or set them on leaf-boats that float along the river of your soul and choose love anyway?
It would be like spring’s river rushing past red cliffs.
It would be like apple blossoms in full bloom.
It would be like birds singing their songs at daybreak.
Every time you walk through fear’s door, love multiples.
Every time you meet fear’s challenge and push through it instead of believe its tricks, love multiples.
Every time you rewire the habitual and culturally conditioned voice that tears down your partner and analyzes them under a high-powered microscope, attraction grows.
There was a time when love wasn’t safe, when the tender field of your heart was trampled on by well-meaning but wounded others, but that time is not now. Not with this kind and willing partner who stands before you, arms outstretched.
There was a time when fearful children encased in bully masks terrorized you daily and taught you not to trust, but that time is not now, not with this sweet human who only wants to love you.
Fear beckons you, enticing you to fall for its tricks and lies so it can keep you safe. But at the same time, paradoxically, fear is rooting for you to say, “No. I will not listen. I will throw myself into love’s arms anyway. I will say YES to everything, even to the expressions of NO, until I discover that every time I do this, love multiples.
What would it be like to watch fear’s walls crumble like hardened sand into the sea every time you say yes to love?
What would it feel like to dive headlong into safe and available love?
Fear will tell you: “Don’t jump! The water is too cold!’ But once you dive in, love’s waters enfold you in warmth, and you wonder why you were so scared.
And it would feel like joy.
It would feel like the pair of ducks that meet in the creek each spring.
It would feel like exhale and safety.
It would feel like the reason why you’re here.
There is a roadmap to help you shrink fear and grow love. There is a set of Love Laws and Loving Actions that will guide you along the path of awakening into the love that is your birthright. This is what I teach in Open Your Heart: A 30-day course to feel more love and attraction for your partner.
I released the first round of Open Your Heart in May 2013, and it still remains one of my most popular courses. Why? Because our deepest longing is for love, attraction, and connection, yet when fear flares into the picture, love and attraction wither and wilt. You know there’s a way back. You hope that even if attraction wasn’t there in the beginning that it can be grown. And you’re right: one spark of love can be fanned into full fire and you can rewire the faulty connections that are preventing you from seeing and feeling attracted to your partner… if you only knew the way.
The fifteenth round of this course will begin on August 4th, 2019, and registration is now open. I look forward to seeing you there and guiding you personally along the paths to open-hearted and full-bodied loving.
Sheryl Paul, M.A., has counseled thousands of people worldwide through her private practice, her bestselling books, her e-courses and her website. She has appeared several times on "The Oprah Winfrey Show", as well as on "Good Morning America" and other top media shows and publications around the globe. To sign up for her free 78-page eBook, "Conscious Transitions: The 7 Most Common (and Traumatic) Life Changes", visit her website at http://conscious-transitions.com. And if you're suffering from relationship anxiety – whether single, dating, engaged, or married – give yourself the gift of her popular eCourse (http://conscious-transitions.com/break-free-from-relationship-anxiety-e-...).