When you are “in the groove”, you feel confident, sexy, healthy and strong! Being in the groove is all about attitude, and is really quite noticeable to others. People can sense your energy if you feel secure, positive and optimistic – all incredibly attractive qualities. But what happens when you lose it? – Maybe for a brief time, or eventually giving up and completely letting yourself go? I’ve certainly experience feelings of despondency at times. It’s like a downward spiral that may have been initially triggered by something external, yet can allow it to deeply affect our entire outlook. Depression can lead to losing interest in sex, how you look, and a number of destructive behaviors. Here are some ideas to help you get back in the groove.
First of all, take some personal time for yourself to just relax – take a warm bath, listen to soft music, or use aromatherapy. Take several deep, cleansing breaths: inhale slowly and deeply, and then exhale forcefully until all of the air is out of your lungs. Visualization is a constructive way to reshape our thinking and revitalize our passion and purpose in life. Picture the result you are trying to achieve, and then visualize yourself taking the steps to reach your goal. This is often most effective just before you go to sleep at night. Make sure to get a good night’s sleep, as it does much more than restore your youthful energy. Sleep nourishes your mind, especially your subconscious – which is most important to keep healthy, as it directs our conscious mind in how we see ourselves and interact in the world.
“Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.” -Tom Blandi
Rather than wishful thinking and saying, “I want (this or that)”, use positive affirmations in the present tense, such as “I am sexy! I am attractive and I have so much to offer. I am desirable, and I do enjoy intimacy.” Before you know it, your mind will focus on your intentions and your subconscious will guide you through the details. Also know that you are only as old as you feel. Your attitude and energy that you project is far more important and noticeable than how you look. However it is a good idea to also make the best of what you have to work with in your physical appearance.
Plan a fun night out on the town, either with your partner or with the girls – just get out and enjoy yourself! This always helps to boost confidence and improve our general outlook. Go through your closet find the most appealing attire. Or, better yet, go buy a new outfit or some sexy new shoes! There’s nothing that helps a woman feel better than shopping! Get your hair done, or spend some time fixing your hair to look your best. Shave your legs and in between, paint your nails, bring out the bling and glitter – whatever you want to feel fun and flirtatious. No need to overdo it with too much pretense, as it’s really the inner beauty that makes all the difference in shining your light.
The intention is to feel empowered and have a good time, not necessarily to take a man home that is half your age – (but that’s OK too). Make eye contact, offer genuine smiles, and embody absolute self-assurance. That alone will be sure to turn a few heads. It’s ok to experiment with seduction techniques, especially if you already have a partner to really spice up your intimate connection. Turn up the heat so he will notice you in a whole new light, or perhaps reignite that initial attraction. One thing to remember is not to compare yourself with anyone else. There will always be girls who are younger and seemingly more attractive. However they may not have that pure energetic magnetism, which is beyond skin deep.
Take this empowered, bold and fearless spirit with you into the bedroom, as confidence is truly the sexiest quality you can possibly embody. Try something different to heat things up such as the [G] Female Stimulation Gel – the first and only 100% natural stimulating gel to enhance your sensitivity and intensify physical stimulation. [G] provides a tingling sensation that will make your toes curl and legs quiver with more frequent and intense orgams. He will definately love this unleashed wild side in you!
Being back in the groove and feeling empowered can certainly be advantageous in every relationship from your work place to social interaction. Learn to appreciate your greatness, and not criticize any perceived flaws about yourself or anyone else. The more you observe and feel gratitude for your own inner and outer beauty, the more others will become aware of it and appreciate those qualities in you.
Allura Grace has worked with women of all ages and of diverse backgrounds for many years in offering support, holistic therapy and relationship counseling, as well as sharing resources and useful information in the areas of women’s sexuality, health & wellness. Allura has facilitated various women’s groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.
Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical issues and insecurities with sexual expression and experiencing orgasm. She enjoys helping clients explore their passions in finding a sense of purpose and to manifest their dreams and desires. She is a certified Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.
Currently, Allura enjoys writing articles to empower women in their sexuality, promoting a healthy fulfilling sex life - with or without a partner! Check out my blog, Straight UP Girl Talk with Allura at: www.oceanusnaturals.com/blog