How to Swallow Your Pride In A Relationship

Pride is an attitude that can hurt a relationship. It can make you treat your partner with disrespect. As a result, your lover may also act harshly towards you and that can breed strife in the relationship which can, ultimately, weaken the love foundation of the relationship.
So, how can you swallow your pride in a relationship so that you can relate better with your partner?

1. Think About Humbling Experiences Often
Everyone of us has faced times when we were humiliated or embarrassed. And we do not like to think about those times because it hurts our pride. However, those same events can help you to swallow your pride. They will help you to feel humble.
So, regularly, think to yourself such as, “Although I was so humiliated when I was booed at the Book Lovers’ Conference because my presentation was terrible, I did not react unseemingly. Therefore, I must suppress my arrogant tendencies because I am dealing with someone I love.”
In addition, write down about 50 humiliating things that have happened to you. Read them often to help you humble yourself. It will help you to treat your partner with more respect.

2. Remind Yourself of Your Partner’s Contributions to the Relationship, Often
Regularly, remind yourself of how your partner or spouse has added value to your life since he or she started the relationship with you.
• Write down 50 good ways your partner has contributed positively to the relationship.
• Write down his or her financial contributions, time they have sacrificed for you, encouragement they have given to you, times he or she has stood by you and supported you even when friends and family members neglected you, and so on.
• Ask yourself questions such as, “If I make him unhappy and he leaves me, will I get another man who will tolerate me as he does?” Think about it for some time. It will make you appreciate your lover or spouse more.

3. Wash Your Partner’s Feet
One of the causes of pride in a relationship is the lack of humility on the part of a partner, the fact that partner may be inclined to feel that he or she is superior to his partner or spouse.
To combat that attitude, consider what Jesus did in John 13 where He washed the feet of His disciples to show them that they should be humble towards one another. Sit for a moment and imagine the Creator of the Universe, girding Himself with a towel, getting on His knees in front of his disciples and washing their feet.
The feet washing symbolizes that you are prepared to humble yourself to serve your loved one.
You may incorporate this activity into your relationship to help you humble yourself when you see that you are behaving arrogantly towards your partner or spouse.
So, when thoughts come to your mind which make you feel as though you are better than your lover, wash his or her feet as a sign that you commit yourself to learn to humble yourself before your partner or spouse.

Conclusion
If you want to swallow your pride in a relationship, learn to cast your mind back to times when you have been humbled, acknowledge your lover’s contributions which have made the relationship what it is, and try to wash your partner’s feet when you feel your ego is growing bigger. Consequently, you will relate to each other better and your relationship will blossom into a very healthy relationship.