Rejection can be hard on anyone and sometimes it can make you think you aren’t worthy of love. Newsflash, you are, and here’s how to remind yourself of that!
A person can only take so much rejection, be it in person, on an app, or on an adult dating site, before they start to doubt their worthiness of love. We second guess ourselves and our self-esteem takes a huge dive.
Here are 6 ways that you can give your self-esteem a boost and remind yourself that you are worthy of love!
1. Rid Yourself of Any Toxic Relationships
We have a tendency to give the wrong people too much of our time and energy. These toxic relationships leave us feeling anxious, unappreciated, and even used. No one deserves to stay in that kind of relationship, regardless of its nature. If your intuition is telling you that this relationship isn’t worth the headaches you get from it, then you need to trust it. Believe that you deserve better than what you’re getting and walk away.
2. Reconnect With People Who Adore You
When we get too preoccupied with toxic relationships, we will neglect the people in our lives who truly does love and appreciate us. Take time out of your day to reach out and reconnect with them. Maybe ask an old friend out to lunch. Maybe plan a family barbeque. When you make the time to see these people, you’ll be glad that you did and may even wonder why you wasted it on someone who gave you less.
3. Give Someone A Helping Hand
If you find that you aren’t satisfied with an area of your life, offer to help someone else. When you make a conscious decision to go out of your way to make someone’s life a little easier, even if it’s something small like helping a co-worker with a project or helping a neighbor rake the yard, you’ll feel a sense of purpose. You’ll be able to step outside of your bubble and realize that you have qualities that makes you special.
4. Treat Yourself to Something Nice
Like other relationships in our lives, the relationship we have with ourselves must be nurtured too. Treat yourself to a spa day, or out to your favorite restaurant. If you have some time off, go on a weekend getaway and relax. Whatever it is that makes you happy, do it. You’re worth it!
5. Get a Hobby or Pick Up an Old One
People aren’t the only things that we tend to neglect when we’re in a toxic relationship—we tend to let our hobbies fall to the wayside as well. Now is your chance to get back into hiking, crocheting, gardening, or whatever else makes your heart happy. If you’ve always wanted to try painting or pottery, do it! Now is the time to make yourself enjoy life again!
6. Become One With Nature
For many people, there is something truly peaceful about being out in nature, reconnecting with Mother Earth. At the risk of sounding like a hippy, you need to let go of modern comforts and rough it for a bit—even if only you go to a meadow with nothing but a blanket, a book, and some snacks. When you’re out in the middle of nowhere with nothing but your thoughts and the silence (or near silence), you can think about everything. With this clarity, you can see where you can improve on your life so you’re happy again.
Rejection can be rough, there’s no denying it; but, you shouldn’t allow that rejection make you feel inferior in anyway. You are worth loving and maybe right now just isn’t your time. Step away from the dating world for a while and reconnect with yourself. You’ll find that when you’re at peace with yourself and are happy with who you are, love will come to you.
Alex, online dating specialist. Have degree in Psychology, fields of interpersonal relationships, love, finding a partner are relative to me. I love to study people and communicate with them.