Relationships: Can Being Needy Cause Someone To Put Up With Bad Behaviour?

If someone hasn’t eaten for a little while, they can end up eating things that are not good for them. Due to how hungry they are, it can stop them from being able to resist this type of food.

They can find that their will power has deserted them and that they don’t even take the time to think about if they are doing the right thing. They are going to have a strong desire to fulfil a need, and that will be the only thing that matters.

Off Balance

What this shows it that there can be times when it is not going to be possible for one to behave as they would like to. Even so, it could be said that this is just part of life, as they are not always going to be able to exercise self-control.

In general, one could find that this is something that rarely takes place, and so there will be no reason for them to beat themselves up about it. They could take the time to think about how most of their life is spent doing things that are good for them.

A Way of life

However, if this was something that took place on a regular basis, it wouldn’t be something that they can simply overlook. In this case, they could find that they are carrying more weight than they need to.

But if this is not something they can relate to, they are likely to find that they are not very healthy. There will then be the state of their health and there will be the effect this is having on their mental and emotional health.

A New Approach

Therefore, the sooner one does something about this; the sooner they will begin to improve their health. On one hand, one will need to look into what kind of food they need to eat in order to be healthy.

This can take place through looking on the internet, or through speaking to someone who has a deeper understanding of this area of life. And on the other hand, it will be necessary for them to develop will power.

A Process

What is clear is that their life is not going to change overnight, but this doesn’t mean that it will take forever. Through taking the first step and doing something each day, they will be sure to achieve their desired outcome.

Another Area

And while one might be able to identify with the above example, they might find that there is something else that is causing then problems. There is the chance that they have moments when they are needy, and this then causes them to behave in ways that are entirely out of character.

As a result of behaving this way, they could often end up pushing people away. When they meet someone, they could behave as they usually do, but once the relationship progresses this could all change.

A Missed Opportunity

If one was to look back on their life, they could start to wonder why they behave in this way. During this time, they might see that this hasn’t always taken place, and that there have been times when they were able to be themselves.

It is then as if this is something that comes and goes, and there is nothing they can do about it. Naturally, this is going to be something that will cause them to experience pain and frustration.

The Other Extreme

What is going to cause one to experience even more pain is if this is what always takes place. They could then find that this stops them from getting too close to anyone, and so they are going to be used to be single.

And through experiencing life in this way, there is a strong chance that they will feel even needier. As a result, this can cause them to come on even stronger and this will make it even easier for people to reject them.

Walked Over

Yet regardless of whether this happens on the odd occasion or as a way of life, it could also set them up to be taken advantage of. If one was to attract someone, they could find that they end up putting up with bad behaviour.

And although there is the chance that the other person will end up walking away before too much time has passed, there is also the chance that they will stay around for quite some time. As to how long one will be treated badly can then depend on how long the other person stays around for.

One Focus

One could find that they overlook what is taking place, as they don’t want the other person to leave them. Either consciously or unconsciously, this could be something that the other person is only too aware of.
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This is likely to mean that one won’t be respected by them, but it can still cause one to be used by them. If they were to leave them, it could be because they have found someone else to use.

Another Way

But even if they don’t leave them, it is going to be a good idea for one to take a step back from what is taking place. When one behaves in this way, it can show that they don’t value themselves.

What can also play a part here is if one is carrying unmet needs from their early years, as these needs will cause them to feel like a needy child and to expect too much from others. This shows that there can be a number of different factors involved here, and that it is not black and white

Awareness

When it comes to moving forward, one might be able to do this by themselves, or they might need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist.