Apology Letter to Girlfriend - What to Say to Say Sorry to Your Ex Girlfriend, and How to Say It

When you look for advice on the internet about how to get your girlfriend back, you discover that step one is to write a letter.

And you learn that this "apology letter to girlfriend" has to be a handwritten letter -- not typed, and not an email.

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The purpose of the letter is to let your ex girlfriend know you're sorry for whatever you did, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea.

This letter sets the stage for everything you'll be doing afterwards, to try to get back together.
Why apologize in writing?

A hand-written letter, sent in a hand-addressed envelope, is the most personal form of delayed communication you can use.

Spoken communication, in person or over the phone, is too immediate. With immediate communication, some response is required -- but your ex might feel threatened, or feel like there's not enough time to think of the right response.

Text messages and email are too casual. Even a typed or printed letter feels distant, compared to the intimacy of a handwritten letter you took the time to pen yourself. Your letter to your ex girlfriend absolutely must be written by hand, and written on paper, not on a card. A card is, once again, too casual.

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When to send an apology letter to a girlfriend?

Send your letter as soon as possible, but be sure to wait until after you have thought about your situation, and think you understand what your ex girlfriend is feeling.

While you compose your letter, you should feel regret, not anger. If you are still angry, then it is too soon to write a letter of apology. It is too soon to say you agree with the breakup.

You need to be certain about what you are apologizing FOR. For example:

1. Did you hurt her feelings?

2. Is she angry at you?

3. Is she afraid of you?

4. Are you ashamed of something you said or did?

5. Did you lie, steal, or cheat?

6. Did you forget something important?

Even if it was an accident, you should apologize. Even if it felt justified at the time, you should apologize. Even if you know that in the same circumstances, you would do the same thing again -- you still ought to apologize.

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What should you say in an apology letter to a girlfriend?

Your letter of apology to your lover needs to communicate two things: That you are sorry for whatever you did that caused your breakup, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea.

Don't spend too much time explaining why you did what you did. It won't help, especially if it was a repeat occurrence, or if you did it on purpose.

Don't be funny, and don't be crude or obscene.

Don't ask for an acknowledgement -- no, "Let me know if you got this" or anything like that. You should be prepared not to hear back from her.

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Apology letter to girlfriend sample

Here is an example apology letter to an ex girlfriend...

Dear Amy,

I have been thinking a lot about how I hurt you, and I want to say I'm sorry. I understand why you don't want to be with me any more. I agree it is a good idea.

Being away from you is hard on me, but I guess that after time goes by I won't miss you so much. I hope, anyway, because I would hate to feel like this forever.

I know it was the last straw. I know you think you can't trust me any more, after what I did. But please believe my apology. You mean more to me than anyone else does. You are the one I love.

Maybe after you have had some time away from me, you will want to talk to me again. If you ever need me, I will be there for you.

Love, Kevin

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Once you send this letter, you will have completed Step 1

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Apology letter to girlfriend for being drunk

When you're apologizing to your girlfriend for something you did while hammered on a Friday night, have you ever said something like this?

I couldn't help it baby, I was totally out of control!

Whether you think it or not, this kind of logic deepens hostilities and starts the kind of fights that end relationships. You might have been blacked out drunk when all the crazy stuff happened, but it's not fair for your girlfriend when you vacate your responsibilities to respect each other in public and behave like an adult. So as you work to apologize for what you've done and get on the same page, remember that you're going to:

Apologize -- without excuses or equivocation.

For -- there was an internal reason you did what you did.

What -- something of consequence happened. It wasn't "something" or "you know".

You've Done -- remember, you're the person responsible for what happened, nobody else.

One of the hurdles in making this sort of apology is that usually, this isn't the first time something like this has happened. If you repeatedly made this same mistake in your relationship, you need to work really hard to show that this time is different. That means being very specific about what happened and the harm it caused. Here's a sample apology letter to a girlfriend for being drunk.

What if she already left you? Here's how to get her back.

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Dear Kendra --

You spent all week telling me not to drink at the party, and I did it anyway.

What I did was absolutely wrong in any light, because at best, I was ignoring your advice and engaging in destructive behavior. What's worse is that I didn't stop at one drink... or two... or three. I shouted, I cursed at you and your mother, I pushed my brother into the pantry when he tried to step in and get me out of the house, and I made an idiot of myself.

You and I have been together for three years, and there are times I still don't understand that what I say and do reflects on you for choosing to be with me. The shame you felt when I ignored you when you tried to stop me from having the first beer, the embarrassment you felt when you had to clean up after me, the arguments where you had to tell your parents reasons why you put up with me... all of it's my fault, and even though I've told you time and time again that I'm going to fix it... I still haven't managed it.

I don't want to be that guy. I don't want to feel like I have to humiliate both of us in order to have a good time... and I don't want to have so little willpower that I drink even when I know the consequences.

All I can do is take control out of my hands and put them into yours. I won't go to any parties where there's alcohol in the room, and I won't keep any beer in the house when people come over. If we've got to lock it down, so be it. If we've got to keep a dry house, so be it. And we'll do it until you feel like I'm ready to take on that responsibility again.

Please give me a chance to make this right and restore sanity to our home.

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Apology letter to girlfriend for cheating on her

If you're reading this and looking for an easy solution to problem: I'm sorry. Cheating isn't just a bad thing when it comes to relationships, it's the worst thing. Infidelity is like a poison in relationships, and it attacks the trust that's a lifeblood to a stable and gratifying relationship. You can apologize, but make sure that's it's done because you want to, and without any expectations. If you still think there's a good reason for what you did, or you've got something you need to convince her of... don't write a letter, and don't try to contact her.

Your apology can be as long or as short as you want it to be. But it needs to address what happened without avoiding facts that make you uncomfortable, it need to explain what happened in the relationship without making excuses for your behavior. Be brief, and be very clear about what you're going to do to fix things. Don't spend a bunch of time talking about how you feel -- odds are she isn't thinking about your emotions right now.

Here's a sample apology letter for cheating. Your letter can be a little longer than this, but don't write pages of details. Just get to the point.

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Nikki --

I cheated on you twice during our trip to Austin.

Both times were on Saturday night -- we'd both had too much to drink, and when you went to sleep in the hotel room, I headed out looking to "make the most of things" -- I didn't go out looking to cheat, but I had sex with a couple of different women during the night and dozed off, which was why you didn't see me until the afternoon.

It didn't have anything to do with the arguments we've been having lately -- I felt so excited and free during the vacation that I just... started acting like a kid, like I didn't have any real responsibilities.

I felt dirty and embarrassed when it happened, and I feel even worse now. And when you asked me about what I did a week later, I lied about it even more. Why? I was too busy thinking about how embarrassed I felt that I didn't take a moment to think about how you felt, confused about our relationship... and looking for some of the honesty that's clearly missing from our relationship.

I love you. And I know that I need to prove it all over again, and maybe I never will. But I've met with my minister and I've told my friends and family the truth about what happened. I don't want to hide -- I want to fix things.

Which is fine. Me feeling bad about something I did isn't as bad as you feeling bad for something you didn't do and don't deserve to have happen to you.

If you're angry at me, or frustrated, or heartbroken -- I understand all of it.

If there's anything I should do to start fixing the hurt I've caused, please tell me, and I'll do whatever it takes.

I'm sorry for my selfishness. And I hope you find it in your heart to forgive me.

***

Remember to be patient, and work on fixing your own attitude. When a person cheats, it means (among other things) that they didn't understand self-control and self-denial.

So start fixing that -- develop the courage to accept responsibility without hiding behind a shield of "yes, buts", listen when people give their opinions (especially the person you cheated on), and accept that they're probably in better shape to understand what's going on in the relationship than you.

Good luck.

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Apology letter to girlfriend for not trusting her

Before you put pen to paper to write anything -- whether it's a contract, a promise, or an apology -- it's vitally important that you mean every word of what you say.

So before you apologize for your paranoia and lack of trust in your relationship, ask yourself if you seriously feel justified in the way you've been acting lately. If so, then either you're being stubborn, or there's a real issue going on that shouldn't be ignored. Either way, you shouldn't apologize to patch a hole in a relationship or as a way to "let her win".

If you're angry at yourself, and desperate to fix something broken in your relationship with your girlfriend, then have a seat -- that's the time to write an apology.

Now in some cases, how the offender feels about the situation isn't as important as what they're going to do to fix it (like infidelity or spousal abuse), but when jealousy and suspicion strike a relationship, the innocent party might feel confused -- why something they normally love seems to go crazy at the drop of a hat.

It makes them feel bad too... like they somehow don't deserve to be treated with respect.

You need to adopt the mentality of a third grader, and keep asking yourself "why" over and over until you get to a real answer that isn't just petulant grumbling. If it's something you keep doing, you need to learn how to stop. If it's something that happened to you that you can't get over, the two of you need to learn how to put the past behind you.

1. Talk about what you did (so she knows that you understand it as much as she does)

2. Take responsibility for it

3. Explain what's going on in your head that's making you do it

4. Explain what you're going to differently from now on

Here's a sample letter to apologize for not trusting a girlfriend.

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Melody --

You found the bill from the private investigator last week.

I've been paying someone to follow you around after work for the last three weeks. You know I started my new job last month... with all the changes in my life, I've been thinking about you more and more. As much as I'm embarrassed to say it, these thoughts haven't helped bring us together.

I wasted a lot of our money, and more importantly, I ruined the trust and respect that we promised to give each other. With the one person in the whole world that's always had my back and had faith in me.

I feel like a moron.

A lot of it's my upbringing. My dad went through a messy divorce when I was a kid, and a lot of the stuff he said echoes in my head during times that it shouldn't. And if you remember, Bethany cheated on me right before I met you, so my insecurity comes to the forefront sometimes even though you've proven how much you love me, over and over again.

I want to change more than anything, and I know I won't be able to do it unless you help me one more time.

I don't want to spend the rest of my life making excuses for being jealous. And the feeling I get whenever I see you talking to another guy... I don't want to pass that to the children we have someday. And I know you feel the same way.

Instead of spending my money on paid snoops, I should have been spending it on therapy. I've been nervous about it every time you brought it up -- I'm still nervous -- but I know what I've been doing isn't healthy and I need to do something different.

I want to meet in person tomorrow, and I'd be very willing to talk about where we can go for help.

***

If these words aren't coupled with some concrete actions, she's going to think you're "saying the right things" but not delivering on anything she can be sure about. A "just words" approach might make you feel good, but it's not going to restore your relationship back to its original condition.

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Apology letter to girlfriend for hurting her feelings

It can feel a little disorienting... you're hanging out with your friends, kicking back, maybe having a beer... and in the course of joking around, your girl comes up. And even though you don't really mean anything by it, she overhears it, and it becomes a big deal. You've hurt your girlfriend's feelings.

If you're in this situation, you need to address it in a real, conclusive way so that it doesn't turn into resentment down the line. That means talking it out, but in order to do that, you need to initiate the conversation. And the quickest way to start a successful conversation is to write an apology that explains what's been done, and why you'll change things in the future. Whenever you make a heartfelt apology, you've got to show empathy. That means putting serious thought into the reasons why she feels bad. Stay away from generalities like "I was stupid" or "it just happened".

We've included a sample letter of apology for hurt feelings to get you started.

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Chastity --

All of us went to the bar last Sunday, and without really thinking about it, I spent the entire afternoon making fun of you.

I guess I was trying to impress your Dad -- he's a really boisterous guy, and he makes jokes about everybody he comes across. And in trying to bond with him, I really embarrassed you.

I was totally inconsiderate. You didn't want to go to the bar in the first place, and it was just me, your Dad, and "the guys" -- you were out there all alone socially, and I should have been the one backing you up, not making things worse. When I tell jokes, I do it to make people relax and lighten the mood. When I made fun of your nose and the stuff you buy at the mall and your movie collection, none of that helped you -- the most important person in the room -- feel relaxed or secure.

If you're willing to take me at my word that this stuff will never happen again, I'd love to get back together with you and spend some time together, just the two of us. Otherwise, let's talk about what we can do specifically to prevent it.

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Apology letter to girlfriend for forgetting

It's not a big deal right? Your significant other asks you to do... something. But over the course of the day, something really important happens, or even a few important things, and you get sidetracked. Wrong. The first step in apologizing for your forgetfulness is realizing that even if it feels "out of your control", they are your actions, and they have a real impact on your relationship.

You've got to remember that nothing in a relationship is just about what it appears to be on the surface. It would be crazy for your girlfriend to freak out over grabbing some milk from the gas station, but what she's really worried about is your reliability. Keep that in mind as you write your letter to apologize for forgetting..

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Marche --

I forgot to pick up the mattress yesterday after work. You told me about the mattress twice during the day, but I couldn't manage to remember. I came inside and fell asleep on the couch. By the time you got home from work yourself, the mattress store had closed.

I didn't mean to forget, and I didn't mean to have an argument the next morning. You're absolutely right: we're too old to be sleeping on couches, even for a night. And this isn't the first time that I've forgotten something important. Whether it's something "small" like getting certain things from the grocery store or bigger things like picking up the kids from school... I know all of it is important, because I want to be somebody you can depend on and trust.

So, I want to break this habit. Bear with me, it's going to take a little time. I've got some software for my phone that will allow you to give me automatic reminders over the phone when I need to get something done, a bit like an alarm. I'll feel a little weird at first, but it's something I'm ready and willing to do.

Would you like to meet and get started?

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Pay Close Attention Here-

Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your ex begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will make your ex crawl back to you within a few days guaranteed. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out- Click Here