Unless a kernel of wheat is planted in the soil and dies, it remains alone. But its death will produce many new kernels—a plentiful harvest of new lives. Those who love their life in this world will lose it. Those who care nothing for their life in this world will keep it for eternity.
John 12:23-25
Or, in the words of Elsa from Frozen – “Let it Go, Let it Go, Can’t Hold it Back Anymore”
For years, I fought for a life that I did not want but thought I had to have…
One where I was alone…
Well, I was not alone, I just felt alone even in the midst of many, many people…
There were all these traditions I had to obey in order to be accepted by the tribe…
The tribe being my extended family, my church, the company I worked for…
All of these circles came with their ideas of how I was supposed to live in order to be accepted by them…
I had to be willing to send money to anyone that asked me to, if I was not to be considered selfish…
And I was reminded time and time again about the many sacrifices family members had undergone to get me to where I was…
I had to be willing to obey certain church rules because they were supposedly ‘of GOD’ and if I wanted to be loved by them then I had to fall in line like everyone else did…
I had to be willing to work when I was told, as I was told and jump through the many hoops and then I would be rewarded with a wage at the end of the month for my submissiveness…
And this was just the way life was…
I had these big dreams about what I wanted my life to be like but I had to kill them off in order to fit in, to be accepted, to be humble, to be loved, to be approved of.
I had to put everyone else first before the life I was born to live, right?
That was the ‘unselfish’ way to live, right?
And I kept fighting to hold onto that old, limited life…
It felt safe…
It may have been constricted and small but I was comfortable there…
Actually, that is a lie…
I was not comfortable there…
I just did not know there was another way…
Or more to the point, I did not allow myself to think there was another way because that would be too selfish, right?
To put my wants, desires, needs before that of my extended family or church family or friends/colleagues would be selfish, right?
And though I could tell myself that I was doing okay and I could tell myself that I was blessed to be a blessing…
I did not feel very blessed…
In fact, I felt trapped…
I wanted more than this…
A part of me knew I was born for more than this but I thought that would make me selfish and so I held on tightly to these limitations…
And then, I hit rock-bottom and had nothing left to lose so I decided to try something different…
I started to say ‘NO!’ to things I would have always said ‘YES’ to…
I died to the need to be approved of…
I mean, I had always been a bot of a black sheep in terms of refusing to let others control me but this time, I got even more deliberate about it…
With the help of my coaches, I learnt to allow myself to think my own thoughts…
I allowed myself to realise that just because I had been brought up in a certain way, did not mean there were no other ways…
I started to see that somehow people managed to get on with life whether I helped them or not…
I realised I did not need to save everyone…
I realised I was only responsible for saving me!
I refused to be manipulated as people laid guilt trips on me…
I learnt how to hear God for myself so that no one could use Him as a means to control me…
I died to my limitations and woke up a lot more powerful, a lot happier and felt free.
The ‘Because I want to’ uprising began though I did not have a name for it then…
I see you, Leader…
Holding on desperately to a known version of life – One where you are easily manipulated to fulfil the desires of others in your life – You may call it your responsibility, but is it? Have you ever taken a moment to question your old thinking?
If you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them, you know?
You have been brought up to believe that you have to be willing to say ‘YES’ when anyone needs you…
You were brought up to believe that that is the right way to live…
And so, you give up on your dreams in order to keep everyone else ticking over…
You think that if you stop being everything to all people, then the world will cease to exist…
You feel you HAVE to save everyone but do you?
Or is everyone responsible for their own existence…
Or is everyone capable of figuring out how to save themselves, if necessary?
At the moment, you stay small and they stay small – Nobody wins…
But what if you let go of old traditions and rituals and instead, got deliberate about figuring out what your life is actually supposed to be about?
What if you stop allowing yourself to be manipulated, even by those who love you?
What if you died to the need for the approval of the world?
And instead, chose to do the things you dream of…
Those dreams that you try so hard to dampen down, were given to you to fulfil! Only you can fulfil them and while you ignore them living this small existence, the world suffers with the loss of you…
Yes, in the short-term, people will think you are crazy and selfish and all things horrible with the world…
But what if you simply died to the need to please anyone and everyone?
And instead, you stepped into the fullness of you!
You actually chose to give your big ideas a try…
What if by dying to the old way of thinking and living, you allowed yourself to birth a more abundant experience of life?
What if you started then to change more lives and create more wealth?
What then?
You care too much for your standing in this world…
You care too much to be liked by the people in your world…
And so, you do not see that if you would die to this limited version of life, a more expansive life awaits you…
Leader, wake up!
Just because everyone says this is the way, does not mean it is the ONLY way…
Die to that life, stop holding so tightly to a known version of life and instead, dare to step into a more expansive version of life… One where you are happy, fulfilled and where you change more lives and create more wealth BECAUSE YOU WANT TO!
Leader, if this resonates with you and you want more than your current existence…
If this speaks to you at a deeper level than you have ever been spoken to and you are willing to do what it takes to die to this life and step into a new, more expansive version of life…
If you have KNOWN that there is just something wrong with the way you have been living and you are ready to question some of your long held beliefs about what yuo have to do to be loved and accepted…
Then work with me in Spirit Sex Success.
Fight for, deliberately design the life you are born to live because you want to!
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Rosemary Nonny Knight used to be a pharmacist and then decided to do her own thing and gain freedom. She made it happen with real estate management and now shows others how to set up their own business and get those first few customers online