Don't Drown Trying to Save Others

Each of us have people in our lives that just seem to Struggle with Life. Everything that can go wrong does.

Because you are a caring person feelings of sadness, sympathy and an eagerness to help come over you. How can you help, what can you do?

These people can be friends, work colleagues, acquaintance's and even family members. Sometimes even our own children.

You know what it is like to overcome hurdles, obstacles, great pain and move on to happier lives where you have risen above and learnt from these experiences in your life.

So eager to see these people being able to do the same as you.

You go about sharing your knowledge, you help them out physically, emotionally: Yet to no avail.

You feel helpless, overwhelmed, somehow inadequate because you haven't been able to help this person or people.

Wondering what you have done wrong or what more could you do or have done: Guess what - NOTHING

Yes- NOTHING more: the ball is in their court so to speak. You will find for your own sanity and to prevent this from having a negative effect on your life, health and well being. You will need to distance yourself, not becoming involved each time they call or cry out for help.

This may well seem harsh, but for you to have any positive effect on this person's or persons life it is vitally important. Now I am not going to promise you that you will have a positive effect on their life. But I know for a fact that it is not going to help either of you if you drown in the process of it all. This will happen if you don't put boundaries into place and emotionally detach yourself from the situation.

So What Can You Do?

Keep Building Your Life, Keep Rising above your Challenges - Leading by Example.

These people in your life then will have two choices either they will learn and decide to change their life. Believing if you can do it then so can they, or they won't and continue on.

Guess what though - That decision is entirely up to them, but you are not going to help them or yourself by continuing to be involved in their dilemmas.

Never stop loving them, believing in their abilities - allowing them to follow their path without intervention just visual guidance by following your path.

Delegation isn't just for the corporate world it also works within our personal world and lives.

Remember the biblical saying: "Give a man a fish and you will feed him for a day: "Teach a man to fish and you will feed him for Life"

Obviously this doesn't matter whether you are man, woman or child. Share your knowledge, Encourage, Praise and Teach where you can ,and leave in the hands of God and the person involved.

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