Bullying remains a dark reality for hundreds of people. It doesn’t just impact the 6 out of 10 students who say they are victims of bullying on a daily basis but also a growing number of adults in the workplace. Technology has extended the reach of bullying beyond the confined spaces of school and work into a global arena of 24 hour online accessibility. Bullies can use sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to inflict powerful and personal harm on victims.
The emotional damage is clear, impacting important aspects of life even years after the bullying ends. Despite the growing interest and concern, bullying has remained a serious epidemic with no solid solution in sight- until now.
New science uncovers the root cause of bullying behavior and reveals how deeply victims are effected on a subconscious level. It’s insight that offers a deeper look at the powerful root cause of our emotional pain, behavior and beliefs and traces a road map towards the ultimate solution.
It begins by exploring the amazing inner workings of the subconscious brain and to do that we have to picture ourselves there. We’ll use Ricky’s story as an example:
1 Picture with a million broken pieces
Ricky stands in front of his locker early in the morning. There are many things happening around him; many students talking, laughing, and yelling as they walk past him, teachers speaking to each other. The sounds of locker doors closing and opening. The sound of the school buses shrieking as they slow down to approach the front of the school. The different colors of the books in front of him, how heavy they are. All of these details are pieces of data this his subconscious is processing (it processes a million times more information than the conscious brain is even aware of!) This data, which enters through his senses, is processed with specific emotion based on importance. (Like, for example, Ricky understands that the sound of the bell is pretty important if he wants to get to his first class on time!)
The brain always processes information this way- no matter what. So what happens if Ricky is standing there subconsciously processing all of this information around him and all of a sudden he gets pushed to the ground? He goes into instant panic mode. He falls to the ground and his books drop beside him. Another kid who is really tall, with dark curly hair and brown eyes is wearing a striped blue shirt and is standing above him, teasing him. Ricky sees his sharp chin and dimples. The bully is pointing at him with his finger, his voice is very deep and his feet are tapping as he laughs loudly before walking away. The bully has a very distinct walk that Ricky subconsciously notes as he’s still on the ground. In that moment, Ricky felt a huge loss of control and fear. He froze in his panic and while HE froze, his brain sure didn’t. His brain continued to process all of those little details about the bully along with everything else that was going on around him in that hallway. Even though HE wasn’t focused on those things, his subconscious was. But during those moments, all of the data was processed with panic and fear. So all of those details that he absorbed about the bully and everything around him, was processed, but not the correct and healthy way. It is bad data. It’s why we call this data, bad clusters.
Bullying: The pain of a lifetime
Many years after the bullying is over, Ricky is talking to a tall co-worker with a deep voice who has dark curly hair and is wearing a striped blue shirt, who is holding a stack of different colored books. Ricky starts to feel panicked but is not sure why (He begins to think that perhaps he ate the wrong thing this morning, or maybe he’s dehydrated, maybe it’s just too hot in here?). All he knows is that he wants to get away from that situation- and quick! Later, Ricky decides that he doesn’t like this person because he ‘rubs’ him the wrong way.
What’s really happening is that those little details associated with the co-worker triggered an ‘activation’ of those bad clusters which were processed incorrectly during that bullying episode years ago. The activation of bad clusters is the number 1 cause of problems such as depression, insecurity, anxiety and rage and more.
But the impact of bad clusters doesn’t end there! They also affect our beliefs about ourselves and the world and our behaviors.
That bullying episode caused Ricky to develop an incorrect belief that did not serve him at all. He began to believe that who he was as a person made him a target for bullying and therefore he must become someone else. For years, Ricky felt as if he had to play a part and had trouble being himself with most people.
Victims of traumatic bullying can develop all sorts of beliefs and behaviors as a response to the emotional pain. These beliefs drive the way they approach certain aspects of their life and how they view others. It’s a complicated consequence of bullying that develops to push them away from the real root source of their emotional pain- bad clusters.
Don’t push away the pain. Transform it.
Most people don’t realize the complexity with which the subconscious stores and then activates data, throughout their life. These activations determine their beliefs and actions. When this data is wrongly stored- it creates beliefs and behaviors detrimental to your growth, health and happiness.
This makes internet bullying a prime platform for an over activation of pain from previous harassment. While you can’t control the behavior of this type of emotional attack, you CAN change the way it impacts you.
By consciously addressing bad clusters, the data is instantly reprocessed correctly (so that, for instance in Ricky’s case, someone with dark curly hair doesn’t activate panic!). This process instantly erases the associated negativity, immediately offering peace, confidence and clarity while improving behaviors and transforming beliefs to YOUR benefit!
What’s amazing about this “re-coding” process, is that it doesn’t just help victims of bullying, it helps the bully by addressing the root source of the bullying behavior- which is usually based in pain and trauma of their own.
Each of us reacts to pain very differently. The same pain that might make someone close off might make someone else a bully as a reaction to their own discomfort or fear.
To truly put a stop to bullying and heal victims permanently, we have to face the pain that drives us all.
Most people are not aware how powerful the ripple effect can be and how it’s causing self-sabotaging behaviors and beliefs that impact every single aspect of life. It often creates a weight carried throughout life, which steals energy and disrupts purpose. Don’t allow bullies from the past to drive your behavior and health today.
Progressive Mental Alignment pinpoints and transforms the pieces of pain with most powerful impact, allowing victims to take back the control of their life and freeing bullies from the behavior based on a hurtful past.
Control your own life from a clear perspective, without emotional pain, and settle into the life you were always meant to have!
Progressive Mental Alignment is a self-help institute focused on the language rules of the brain to map its impact on every single aspect of life.