The biggest erogenous zone for women is not between her legs but between her ears. Stimulating her body is the easy part. Stimulating her mind shows her what you are really made of. There are many different ways to stimulate a woman’s mind so try different techniques. Study, listen and understand your woman and her every need. When your woman grows accustomed to one technique, change things up. Add to your list of things to do to continue stimulating her mind. Each woman has her own unique ways of being stimulated. Be creative and enjoy exploring your options.
Although there are many ways to stimulate a woman’s mind, I have compiled a list of 10 ways that will definitely get you started. Please feel free to add to this list in the comments section.
1. Take Charge Women look up to men who are willing to take charge as the leader. Not only wear the title of leader but men who are willing to follow through as the leader and make things happen. Most women embrace having a take charge person that she can trust to lead, direct and follow through.
2.Intelligence Broaden your topics of conversation by studying and researching the things women are interested in. Talk to her outside of bedroom topics. Discuss your life, goals and dreams. Challenge her thinking with new perspectives. Express yourself and articulate your emotions. Instead of groping her and/or being overly sexually explicit about your desires, find other intelligent ways of expressing your desires to her. Express to her she is worth the extra effort and she stands out from the rest.
3.Listening Skills When communicating with a particular woman do your research and find out what her interests are. Listen to her and make mental notes of the certain things she likes or things that make her smile. Listen to what she talks about most often. If she tells you she really likes a certain scent on you, wear it more often. If she tells you she likes a particular food, visit those places for your dates. Take the time to really listen to her and take mental notes. She will tell you exactly what it takes to stimulate her mind. If she doesn’t tell you right away, continue striving to earn her trust. Find ways to get her to talking while you patiently listen and take mental notes.
4.Observation Pay attention to the details of her life. What perfume is she wearing? Or has she mentioned a favorite scent? What is her favorite food? Is she a homebody or like large crowds? Pay attention to the small details of her life. Once the details of her life are revealed, do things to show her you are interested in her life. Don’t ask her if you should, just do it and do it just because… What are her favorite television shows, designer handbags, shoes, favorite movies, favorite artists, favorite celebrities and/or genre of music. Broaden your knowledge on certain topics. Venture into different places to travel, things to see or people to meet in order to mentally stimulate your woman’s mind.
5.Mannerism Show some manners. When you go out on dates with your woman, sit facing the door. Facing the door shows her you have her back. Also when escorting her out, be sure to walk on the traffic side. This shows her you are her protector. When you show her you are a gentleman by opening doors, being respectful and just showing old school charm; this can also stimulate a woman’s mind.
6.Pure Emotion When you speak from the heart and are not afraid to share your innermost secrets with her, this shows that you trust her. This stimulates her mind and causes her to trust you with her innermost secrets. Openly express your emotions with her.
7.New Experiences If you frequently visit rhythm and blues venues, try something different. Maybe Jazz/Blues, Country/Western, Caribbean, salsa, piano bars, poetry night or something she hasn’t experienced before. Be creative.
8.No Pretending A woman can sense when you are not who you claim to be. Boasting about your six figure salary and all of your exquisite tastes will not stimulate a woman’s mind. Maybe a gold digger’s mind but not a woman seeking a true partnership. Research diverse topics and share your knowledge with her. If a woman senses you are running game, she will shut down and not trust you. All mental stimulation is lost. Be truthful and honest.
9.Earn Her Trust When a woman has the confidence in her man that he is a problem solver; she begins to let her guard down and trust you more. She opens up her heart to you, knowing you have her best interests in mind. She feels protected and safe. She knows you are safeguarding her heart. She can share things with you that the world doesn’t know. She can lean on you for strength when she is weak and you will catch her.
10. Sense of Humor Find ways to make her laugh. Find her unique sense of humor and keep her laughing. Laughter soothes the soul and will stimulate her mind.
Latorria Pier is an author, a student at Christian Leaders Institute and founder of Special's Quality Care Centers. Her organization is a Christian based non- profit organization that works diligently through many volunteer efforts to empower women and families to initiate personal and social change. She is the author of “Turn My Life Around” Discovering Your Purpose; a 365 day devotional book that helps women discover their divine purpose. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring women to seek their divine purpose within their greatest pain. She is a frequent blogger with word press as her main selection. She also writes articles for thesetmagazine.com. Latorria believes that through her pain and sorrow, God has prepared her to share His word with others in a way that was made just for her. She allows her testimony to serve as an example of how God can turn a negative experience into something positive.