Have you ever wondered why you have not found the love you deserve? Are you getting frustrated about finding your match?
What you need is not far from you, you just may need to take a closer look within.
We often have after thoughts of meeting the wrong people, especially when we initially thought we had finally met “the one.” This can become overwhelming if you keep meeting the wrong match over again. Well, you do not have to look that far. The first step to finding the love you deserve starts with you.
How do you view yourself as love? Viewing yourself as love begins with loving yourself completely. What words would you use to describe yourself? How much attention do you pay to your character and personality?
Below are some pointers that will help you find the answers you need and lead you towards finding the love you truly deserve:
Love Starts with You
It is not about looking good on the outside alone but about believing in yourself completely. Start viewing yourself as love and in the eyes of the one you deserve to be with as well as who deserve to love you for who you are. How you treat and accept yourself sets the pace for how others will treat and accept you.
Change the way you think
Your thoughts can help shape or break you. You cannot have a positive attitude with negative outcomes. When you align your thoughts with positivity, it will reflect in everything you do and help attract the right people into your life.
Learn to embrace your flaws
Accept yourself as you are with your flaws. There is no one perfect and you will not find a perfect partner. The one who deserve to love you will be willing to embrace you and your flaws without a doubt.
Spend time pampering yourself Take some time outside work to pamper yourself. Go on a trip, give yourself a spa treatment gift, go on a girls’ night out, and attend a concert. Build up your self-confidence; carry yourself in ways that make you feel comfortable in your own skin and company.
The moment you start to treat yourself the way you want to be treated, you would not be willing to allow or accept anything less than you deserve. The love you have for yourself will draw the attention of the one to love and be with you.
Do not limit where you can meet someone to places you are used to going. Do not spend your days and nights off at home either. You cannot really meet someone hanging out at home and watching TV with popcorn in hand. Change the setting you are used to and be willing to step outside of your comfort zone. Attend network mixes, professional events, seminars or conferences for singles and you will definitely meet people who are like-minded as you.
It is not an easy process but the results speak for themselves. Do these for a few months and see what happens next!
(This article was originally published on www.kemisogunle.com)
Kemi Sogunle is a multi-award-winning author, international speaker, certified professional coach. Kemi supports singles (including divorcees) to find and love themselves after a broken relationship or divorce, identify their needs, understand what love is prior to starting a new relationship and find love again. She also works with married couples (with conflict resolution, intimacy and trust issues). She is also the Founder/CEO of the nonprofit organization (501c3), Love Not Hurt, an organization that promotes self-development, building healthier and stronger relationships while living with purpose.
She is dedicated to helping others transform their lives through self-development and growth, gaining knowledge and understanding of self-love and who they are before becoming involved in a relationship, find what works best and how to stay true to oneself while connecting with others to build solid relationships that will make their lives better not bitter. She believes that living truthfully is paramount to long-lasting relationships and healthy living.
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