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- Being Seen: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay In The Background If They Had A Verbally Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch a film, they might soon find that there is the main actor and then there are a number of supporting actors. Once the film has come to an end, what may stand out, if they were to reflect on their own life, is that they have a lot in common with a supporting actor. The ...
Views: 81 - Elements Common to the Paths of Inner Growth - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2022 from santosh krinskyIn Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras, there are 8 limbs, or steps, systematically presented as the basis for the practice of Yoga. The first two of these, known as yamas and niyamas present preliminary practices to purify and stabilize the being to prepare for the practice of yoga. Many people consider ...
Views: 83 - Three Primary Paths of Inner Growth and Spiritual Development - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2022 from santosh krinskyEach individual has a unique way of relating to and developing his spiritual aspiration. Those who are more intellectually inclined may find that they naturally incline towards what is known as the yoga of knowledge. Those who have a nature more inclined to devotion and emotional expression may ...
Views: 83 - The Development of the Psychic Being - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2022 from santosh krinskyWe can identify a systematic evolution of consciousness in the external world. Life evolves out of Matter, Mind out of Life. We do not, however, thereby determine either a significance or purpose to this evolution nor any causative factors that involve mind and life into matter such that they ...
Views: 73 - Inner Security: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing Inner Security? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel all at sea internally or to be in a shut down state and unable to feel anything. Experiencing life in this way is likely to make it hard for them to appreciate their time on this planet. Due to how unstable they often feel, then, their need to feel ...
Views: 75 - The Nature, Character and Evolutionary Role of the Psychic Entity, the Soul - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from santosh krinskyThe Rishis of the Rig Veda place Agni at the beginning and in a central role in the spiritual development they described. The flame of aspiration, the ‘knower of all things born’, the mystic fire is the starting point for spiritual growth. This flame resides in the psychic being, the soul, ...
Views: 82 - Tips on How to Break Drug Addiction - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Abdul KarimThere are many ways to define addiction. Here, we will focus on drug addiction, and specifically, tips on how to break drug addiction. First, it is important to understand that addiction is a disease. It is not a choice or a moral failing. Second, addiction is a chronic condition, which means ...
Views: 84 - Child Abuse: Why Can’t An Abusive Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they might have a strong need to talk to them about it. However, it might have taken them a while to realise that this stage of their life wasn’t very nurturing. This is because their brain will have blocked ...
Views: 98 - Buying Your Oral And Dental Care Products Online - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Christopher thomasIt’s always a good idea to take good care of your mouth or dental health. All you have to do is brush your teeth on a daily basis, use mouthwash, and even do some flossing from time to time. It also helps when you don’t eat food that can destroy your teeth. This could be something like hard food ...
Views: 122 - The Influence of Inner Planes of Consciousness on the Outer Life of the Individual - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from santosh krinskyIn The Life Divine, Sri Aurobindo devotes a chapter to the ‘sevenfold ignorance’. While we are fixated on our external mind, life and body and the life we lead in the external world, we remain ignorant of the forces at work, behind the scenes, to create what we call our being and personality, ...
Views: 72 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Take Away Someone’s Desire To Attach To Others? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They can spend a lot of time by themselves and have very little if any interest in being around others. This is not to say that they won’t have any friends but it is likely that they won’t be ...
Views: 68 - Emotional Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are typically out of touch with how they feel, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. But, if this is how they how been for quite some time, there will be no reason for it to stand out. And, as they are likely to live in a society that is full ...
Views: 63 - Are You Overly Stressed Out? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2022 from Judi MoreoBy Judi Moreo Stress is something we all face at one time or another. It drains us of our ability to be the best we can be. In many cases, we can overcome stress and move on with our lives. Stress tends to appear in short bursts throughout our lives. But when it is more frequent and longer ...
Views: 105 - The Subtle Higher Forces of Existence Create Our External Being and Action - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2022 from santosh krinskyWhen looked at from the outside, it seems that Matter came first and out of Matter arose Life and out of Life arose Mind. What is not addressed here is how material forces were able to create life and intelligence, in a seemingly random fashion. This is why some religious traditions posit that ...
Views: 84 - "Us" all "Thems" - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2022 from Rick HansonBy “us” all “thems,” I mean finding common ground with every person – especially those you fear or are angry with or who are simply very different from you. These days this practice is more important than ever. For most of the past 300,000 years, our human ancestors lived in small bands of ...
Views: 81 - Glimpses and Experiences of the Inner Being, and the Shift of the Consciousness from the Outer to the Inner - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2022 from santosh krinskyIf we focus on the experience of our normal, daily lives, we will find that it can be characterised by a specific feeling or quality that we know as our usual experience. While each individual may have a different characterisation of this experience, some happy, some sad, some joyful, some ...
Views: 159 - Inner Growth Differs from Modern Concepts of Growth of Awareness - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2022 from santosh krinskyWe have seen a phenomenal growth of practices that bring attention to our daily actions. Mindfulness training asks us to attend to each movement, each step, each bite of food, and each thought and emotion. Clearly with the amount of distraction we suffer from as a result of our love affair with ...
Views: 90 - Mother Wounds: Can Early Neglect Cause A Man To Fear Being Seen By A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man fears being seen by a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. But, even if he is not consciously aware of this, what he fears is still going to have an effect on how he experiences life. The reason why he is not aware of what is going on is that he could be out of touch ...
Views: 70 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Their Needs Won’t Be Met? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of all of them. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to meet all their needs. By living in this way, they are going to be depriving themselves of a lot of what they need. They can ...
Views: 82 - The Development of the Human Being and the Transcendence of the Human Being: Personal Growth and Inner Growth Defined - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from santosh krinskyPersonal growth and inner growth, the enhancement of the human being and its capabilities and the transcendence of the human being to develop a being awake and active with a new level of consciousness, are not in conflict with one another. The human being must develop to a certain degree to ...
Views: 158 - Self-Pathologizing: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Have Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are finding it hard to handle life, they could believe that there is something inherently wrong with them. They could often see themselves as useless, incapable and even stupid. Unlike perhaps the people in their life, who have it together or at the very ...
Views: 82 - Online Casino - How to Land on the Right One - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Jhon DewIf you have experienced a scenario where in you logged on to your real money account in an online casino to find out that all your money or bankroll was emptied, then you probably have landed on the seemingly right but actually a wrong place to play online casino games. Incident like this one is ...
Views: 102 - Comparing Current General State of Human Consciousness With More Evolved States, Part 7 Separative Ego Versus Universal, Transpersonal Awareness - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2022 from santosh krinskyThe default standpoint for almost the entire human race is that of the ego. There are tribal societies that try to reduce the predominance of the ego through a collective mindset, but even in such societies, pride, rivalry for dominance, and other forms of ego persist. In the West, a premium is ...
Views: 159 - How cognitive training can help improve your memory - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2022 from Mathew PhilipYou’ve probably heard of intelligence quotient (IQ) and emotional intelligence (EI), but what about cognitive quotient (CQ)? The cognitive quotient is a measure of your brain power and its functionality. Just like you exercise your body to stay physically fit, you need to exercise your brain to ...
Views: 75 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Possess A Woman If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman could feel as though he is too much for her to handle. This is because she could feel controlled and as if her ability to freely express herself has been taken away. However, there is a strong chance that she didn’t feel this way in the ...
Views: 64 - Comparing Current General State of Human Consciousness With More Evolved States, Part 6 Subjection to Suffering from the Dualities Versus Equanimity - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2022 from santosh krinskyThe dualities, or pairs of opposites, are recognised throughout the world as a condition of life. Night and day, positive and negative, and all other dualities, can be seen in material nature, as well as in our vital and emotional existence and in our minds. Electricity flows between positive ...
Views: 161 - Comparing Current General State of Human Consciousness With More Evolved States, Part 5 Identification With the External Nature Versus Poise of Detachment - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2022 from santosh krinskyWe generally experience ourselves as our body, life and mind. When we injure our body, we say that we have hurt ourselves. When there are hunger pangs, we say that we are hungry. When we experience an emotion, we say that we have become angry, or are in love, or are feeling lonely or depressed. ...
Views: 163 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Reject His Feminine Aspect If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, a man will have a masculine aspect, and, on the other, he will have a feminine aspect. But, although he will have two sides to this nature, it doesn’t mean that this is something that will stand out. He could generally come across as though he is only made up of the masculine ...
Views: 86 - Points To Remember Before Choosing An Online Casino - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2022 from Jhon DewVirtual world of entertainment, thrill and money, online casinos are an attraction for everyone. There is no doubt in the fact that online casinos are convenient and have their own benefits and fun elements but to choose the right online casino out of so many is a difficult situation. You may ...
Views: 120 - Comparing Current General State of Human Consciousness With More Evolved States, Part 4 Agitation Versus Peace in the Being - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2022 from santosh krinskyIf we observe ourselves carefully, we find that as a natural consequence of the distractions and the dispersion of the consciousness, we have little if any calm and peace in the being. We experience not only the more overt forms of anxiety and concern, but the more subtle forms of nervous ...
Views: 164 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Please His Father? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself in the process, it could be said that this illustrates that he has a strong need to please her. After all, she is going to be the person who he is doing so much for. Based on this, if he ...
Views: 76 - Learn as You Go - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2022 from Rick HansonI was recently asked about my top five inner practices for 2019, and here they are: Drop the stone Let it flow Learn as you go “Us” all “thems” Be amazed By “learn as you go,” I mean that each day is an opportunity to take in the good: to help useful or enjoyable experiences ...
Views: 86 - Comparing Current General State of Human Consciousness With More Evolved States, Part 3 Dispersed Versus Gathered Consciousness - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2022 from santosh krinskyDistraction is actually a symptom of another characteristic, that of “dispersion” of the consciousness. If we take the time to observe our own sense of awareness we find that it seems to be primarily on the surface of our being, receiving sense perceptions, reacting to people, things, events and ...
Views: 165 - Comparing Current General State of Human Consciousness With More Evolved States, Part 2 Distractability Versus Concentratedness - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2022 from santosh krinskyWith even a very cursory examination of the thoughts and sensations that enter our awareness, it becomes quite clear that there is a constant flow of sensations, impressions, perceptions, feelings, emotions and thoughts that seem to bombard us all the time. Our attention flits from one thing to ...
Views: 161 - Unwanted: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Unwanted? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t treated like they were wanted during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this now that they are an adult. Yet, if this is not something that they are aware of, what took place is still likely to have a big impact on how they experience ...
Views: 68 - Feelings: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they really feel. As a result of this, the people in their life are unlikely to be aware of what is truly going on for them. However, due to how good they are at hiding how they feel, there can be no reason for these people to realise this. There ...
Views: 76 - Comparing Current General State of Human Consciousness With More Evolved States, Part 1 Unconsciousness Versus Increasing Consciousness - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from santosh krinskyWhat does the evolution of a new power of consciousness imply? When we observe the impact that the Life-Force has had on Matter, we can see that it brings in a radical transformation of Matter itself to allow the Life-Force to act. Matter has to become more responsive, more flexible, less dense, ...
Views: 160 - Self-Assertion: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone can assert themselves, they will have no trouble standing their ground and saying no. Along with this, if they want to do something, it won’t typically be a challenge for them to do it. Having this ability will allow them to both protect and express themselves. Thanks to this, ...
Views: 84 - Distinguishing Between Personal Growth and Inner Growth - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2022 from santosh krinskyWhile humanity embodies the development of the mental consciousness, in principle, it must be noted that this generalisation does not apply specifically to each and every human individual. Just as the field of statistics does not predict any single event, and the observational experiments of ...
Views: 105 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Accept That He Is Overly Focused on His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and very little time doing things for himself, this might be something that he is aware of. Being this way will allow him to do what he needs to do to gradually change his life. This might have been something ...
Views: 85 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Feeling Guilty After They Have Spoken To Their Abusive Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their early years by one or both of their parents, it could be said that the ideal would be for what they went through to be acknowledged by them. What this would do is allow them to receive the validation that they deserve and play a part in them being able to ...
Views: 85 - Early Deprivation: Does Someone Need To Face The Pain Of Being Unloved In Order To Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone missed out on the love that they needed in order to grow and develop very early on, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Most of what took place during this stage of their life could be a mystery to them. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 81 - Let it flow - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Rick HansonI think there are five key things we can do inside ourselves to be happier, stronger, wiser, and more loving this year: Drop the stone Let it flow Learn as you go “Us” all “thems” Be Amazed My previous JOT explored the first of these: how to lay down the burdens of useless ...
Views: 114 - The Role of the Ego in the Evolution of Consciousness - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from santosh krinskyIn one of his aphorisms, Sri Aurobindo observes: “…the ego was the helper, the ego is the bar.” For most spiritual seekers, the attachment to the ego-personality is the great hindrance which they must find a way to overcome. Some try extreme methods to minimize the role and power of the ego. But ...
Views: 107 - Evolution of Consciousness - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2022 from santosh krinskyNature takes a long time to effectuate substantive evolutionary progress in manifesting higher, more complex and more powerful forms of consciousness. The shift from the realm of Matter took countless millennia. The first appearance of Life was simple and, again, the time required was far beyond ...
Views: 91 - Mother Wounds: Can Developmental Trauma Cause A Man To Put Women On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is around certain women, it might be hard for him to keep it together, so to speak. What this can mean is that during this time, he ends up feeling anxious and can’t function as he normally would. This is likely to be an experience that he has when he is around a woman to who he is ...
Views: 72 - Living Within: Summary and Conclusions - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2022 from santosh krinskyLiving Within: The Yoga Approach to Psychological Health and Growth, compliled by Dr. A.S. Dalal, is an eminently practical handbook for understanding and addressing the complexity of our psychological makeup. Modern-day civilisation creates enormous pressures for individuals, while at the same ...
Views: 100 - Role play by the health kiosks - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2022 from sandeep malikHealthcare providers always have the main priority to improve patient care. These days, hospitals are overcrowded, and staff at the hospitals face hectic situations with these crowds. It will result in an unpleasant experience faced by patients. Here the role of health kiosks comes. Today, ...
Views: 107 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t feel as though he has any value. He could see how this has held him back when it comes to his career and his relationships with the opposite sex. He might have continually made one ...
Views: 81 - Repairing Virtual Communication failures - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2022 from William CottringerRepairing Virtual Communication failures By Bill Cottringer “In a world that is constantly changing, it is to our advantage to learn how to adapt and enjoy something better.” ~Kenneth H. Blanchard. Live, face-to-face (f2f) communication has always been difficult, unfortunately with ...
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