The fifth of my personal Top 5 practices (all tied for first place) is open out, by which I mean relaxing into a growing sense of connection, even oneness, with all things.
"Opening out" can sound kind of airy-fairy or flaky, but I mean it is very down-to-earth ways; check out these JOTs ... Views: 174
Four Main Perspectives in the Game of Life
By
Bill Cottringer
The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective. ~Al Neuharth.
Heroes, Villains, Victims and Bystanders
There are only four choices,
For all the unheard voices:
Be an honorable hero,
And gain ... Views: 187
If a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, he can wonder why he is this way. But, if he is behaving more like her parent than her son, it is to be expected he would be confused.
He can spend a lot of time doing things for her and listening to her problems and providing ... Views: 148
If a man behaves as though he is merely an extension of his mother, it is going to be clear that he needs to change his behaviour. Ultimately, he is not here to be his mother’s slave; he is here to live his own life.
However, even though he will need to change his behaviour, it doesn’t mean ... Views: 166
If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is more like his mothers parent than her son. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time doing things for her.
Yet, even when he is not doing anything for her, he could still spend a lot of time ... Views: 159
In today’s fast-paced, high-stress world, mental health challenges have become a growing concern across various professions. From the boardroom to the classroom, the operating room to the courtroom, business professionals in diverse fields face immense pressures that can lead to burnout, ... Views: 184
The design and functionality of therapy chairs have undergone significant transformations over the years. What once began as simple, utilitarian seating has evolved into highly specialized furniture designed to enhance comfort, support, and therapeutic outcomes. This evolution reflects broader ... Views: 194
If a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and ignores himself, he can struggle to understand why he is this way. What could be clear is that it doesn’t make any sense for him to be this way.
He could believe that he should be focused on his own life, not focused on his ... Views: 152
Even if someone fears that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be aware of this. Now, there will be a time when their life will come to an end; of course, death is part of life.
However, the difference here is that when it comes to the former, this will be ... Views: 164
I admit it: whether close to home or far away, I wish some people were different. Depending on who they are, I wish they'd stop doing things like leaving cabinet doors open in our kitchen, sending me spam emails, or turning a blind eye to global warming. And I wish they'd start doing things like ... Views: 179
What can be normal is for a man to generally live in his head and thus, be out of touch with his feelings and instincts. He is then going to look like a whole human being but he typically won’t operate as one.
But, if this is just what is normal, he might not be aware of how alienated he is ... Views: 166
Law of Attraction is a concept that many of us have heard before. It is a concept that posits how like attracts like, meaning that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person’s life.
With this thought process, you take charge of your life by aligning ... Views: 195
Even if a man feels as if something is missing, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. One reason for this is that he could live in a way that allows him to avoid how he feels.
So, he could spend a lot of time in doing mode, which will stop him from having to be with how ... Views: 160
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they tend to hide their needs and how they feel. Along with this, there might also be parts of themselves and interests that they keep hidden.
Due to this, most, if not all, of the people in their life are not ... Views: 144
As general clusters that each include a number of specific methods, my Top 5 types of practices (all tied for first place) are:
Be mindful
Love
Take in the good
Go green
Open out
The practice of “go green” helps you get out of the brain’s ... Views: 173
What is clear is that if a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is not going to be able to live his own life. To use an analogy, it will be as though he is driving a car and instead of driving where he needs to go, he continually follows another car.
But, even though he will be ... Views: 161
Mental health has become a critical issue in the United States, with millions of Americans experiencing mental health challenges every year. Despite increased awareness and a growing recognition of the importance of mental well-being, the nation continues to grapple with a mental health crisis ... Views: 205
Now that someone is in their forties or fifties, they could have a deep sense that something is missing. This can mean that certain parts of their life are no longer satisfying, or this could relate to their whole life.
Along with the sense that they are living in the wrong way, they can ... Views: 143
Female narcissists can be harder to spot; first, because they’re less numerous, and second, because their behavior may be less assertive and public compared to male narcissists. Male narcissists outnumber female narcissists nearly three to one. However, narcissistic personality disorder is on ... Views: 206
As an adult, a man is free to do what is right for him and live his own life. However, if he spends most of his life focused on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to realise this.
In fact, he might not even realise that he is overly focused on his mother let alone that he has the ... Views: 140
For quite some time now, someone might have suffered from depression. As a result of this, they can typically have a low mode, not be able to experience pleasure or be interested in doing a great deal.
Due to this, days, weeks, months and even years might have passed by but they won’t have ... Views: 175
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, they may find that they have the inclination to ignore their own needs and be there for others. After this, they might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember.
Naturally, by being this way, a number ... Views: 161
Even if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child.
If so, throughout this stage of their life, they ... Views: 148
I've hiked a lot and have often had to depend on what was in my pack. Inner strengths are the supplies you've got in your pack as you make your way down the twisting and often hard road of life. They include a positive mood, common sense, integrity, inner peace, determination, and a warm heart. ... Views: 189
Although someone will want to experience deeper connections with others, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. So, they could find that other people are out of reach and they are unable to get close to them.
As a result, they might not have any close friends and they might not have ... Views: 160
If a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, he might soon feel the need to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. However, this doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with her and start living his ... Views: 168
As our screens become a central part of our lives, it’s crucial to understand if digital dopamine is taking a toll on your well-being
In our increasingly connected world, digital devices have become integral to daily life. However, the constant stream of notifications, likes, and updates can ... Views: 215
Gambling can start as a simple thrill, but when it takes over, it becomes a serious concern.
For some, it's a harmless pastime. For others, it is a dangerous path to trouble. In a world where placing a bet is as easy as tapping a screen, the line between fun and addiction blurs quickly. ... Views: 212
What someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember.
After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have ... Views: 188
If a man generally wasn’t seen and heard by his mother during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he no longer has these needs. He can then be in a position where just about his whole life revolves around his mother and his need to be seen and heard by her.
However, if behaving in this ... Views: 165
If someone were to step back and reflect on their formative years, they may see that this stage of their life was not very nurturing. This may have been a time when their mother was often abusive.
Assuming that this was the case, they wouldn’t have had a mother who was very maternal. It would ... Views: 203
“Peace” can sound merely sentimental or clichéd (“visualize whirled peas”). But deep down, it’s what most of us long for. Consider the proverb: The highest happiness is peace.
Not a peace inside that ignores pain in oneself or others or is acquired by shutting down. This is a durable ... Views: 188
The Stress Epidemic: A Modern Workplace Plague
Let's talk about the elephant in the office - stress. It's the silent productivity killer, the reason behind those tension headaches, sleepless nights, and that overwhelming desire to scream into your keyboard.
Traditional wellness programs might ... Views: 194
What can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed.
Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a ... Views: 185
In general, a man could be passive, easy-going, not stand up for himself or be assertive. Consequently, he is seldom going to take action, express his opinion, stand his ground or assert himself.
Most likely, this is going to stop him from being able to live a fulfilling life. For example, he ... Views: 169
Right now, a man could be with a woman who doesn’t treat him very well. So, what can be normal is for him to be put down, humiliated, ignored, rejected and there may even be times when he is hit.
He might have been with her for a number of months or he might have been with her for a number of ... Views: 175
After a man has come to see that his mother didn’t treat him very well during his formative years, he can have the need to talk to her about what took place. Based on what he experienced, he might have come to the conclusion that she hated him.
Or, if he might have concluded that there were ... Views: 161
If a man were to step back and reflect on his early years, he might see that his mother often treated him like he was nothing. So, he might have frequently been criticised, humiliated, hit, rejected, and even left by her.
Now, if he were to imagine that he has a child, assuming that he ... Views: 166
If a man was brought up by a mother who, in general, wasn’t very nurturing, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. So, when he thinks about this stage of his life, he could think about how his mother did love him but that she didn’t always show it.
The view that he has of her is then ... Views: 181
What someone may find is that just about whenever they take a step forward, they soon end up taking a step back. There can also be times when they end up taking more than one step back.
Thanks to this, they could be extremely frustrated and angry about not being able to move forward in life. ... Views: 165
If you are struggling with insomnia in New Mexico, seeking help from an insomnia treatment clinic could be the key to getting a good night's sleep. These clinics specialize in diagnosing and treating sleep disorders, including insomnia. When you arrive at the clinic, you can expect to undergo a ... Views: 217
Recently, the truth behind Austell's methadone outpatient program has been revealed, shedding light on the problematic aspects of the program. While the program was created with good intentions to help individuals struggling with addiction, it has been found that the program lacks proper ... Views: 207
There’s a new buzzword that has grown in popularity all over social media, and that is – “Manifestation!”
Manifestation has become a phenomenon that everybody seems to be interested in at the moment, particularly on TikTok. The platform’s bite-sized content format has transformed the topic of ... Views: 205
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find that they have the tendency to behave in ways that don’t serve them. This can take place in both big and small ways.
So, they might have been in at least one relationship that was going well and then, they ended up ... Views: 141
Nowadays, there are numerous phobias that someone can have, and some of these are more well-known than others. Furthermore, while some of these phobias can stop them from being able to live a full and rich life, others can typically be put to one side and not trouble them.
If, then, they were ... Views: 159
Although someone can be used to being physically seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel seen. In general, they can feel as though they are not seen and even question if they exist.
It could seem strange as to how they could be seen by others and at the same time, not feel seen. ... Views: 184
By "war," I mean here a mindset, not combat between nations with tanks and bombs. The "war" I'm referring to is an attitude of conflict and animosity toward a person, object, or condition. Parents can feel at war with a misbehaving teenager, and certainly vice versa. Neighbors quarreling over a ... Views: 196
If a woman is with a man who is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, she is likely to wonder what is going on. She can struggle to understand why he is behaving in this way.
It could be clear to her that he is not there for himself and this is causing him to ... Views: 190
If someone were to reflect on how a man behaves, they could soon come to the conclusion that he doesn’t value himself. The reason for this is that he could have a job that he can’t stand and be in a relationship where he is walked over.
Then again, he could have a job that he enjoys but he ... Views: 164