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- Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a mother who lacked empathy, he might not be consciously aware of this. Even so, it doesn’t mean that he will have truly moved on from this stage of his life. Therefore, if he were to remember some of the things that took place and how this impacted him, he might ...
Views: 107 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had A Mother Who lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to think about the experiences that he has had with women over the years, he might soon experience a number of ‘negative’ feelings. This is because he may have been with a number of women who were not very loving. So, these women might not have typically been interested in his ...
Views: 131 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, he may need to start putting himself first. Along with this, he may need to talk to his mother about what is going on. Nonetheless, if he were to talk to her about how he is neglecting himself and no longer wants to do ...
Views: 117 - Accept Difficulty - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2024 from Rick HansonSometimes things are difficult. Your legs are tired and you still have to stay on your feet another hour at work. You love a child who's finding her independence through emotional distance from you. A long-term relationship could be losing its spark. It's finals week in college. You're trying to ...
Views: 114 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Develop A Needless False Self? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is typically focused on a number of his mother’s needs and typically overlooks a number of his own, it can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why he is this way. To them, it can be clear that he is living in the wrong way. However, if they were ...
Views: 111 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Lack A Felt Sense Of Belonging If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be here and have their needs met, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Instead, deep down, they can have the sense that they don’t deserve to be here or have their needs met. Now, although this is something that they can be ...
Views: 130 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be An Unfeeling Human Being? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a mental and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. What can be normal is for them to be connected to their mental self but disconnected from their emotional self. But, due to how normal this is, they might not be ...
Views: 110 - The Spiritual Split - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2024 from William CottringerThe Spiritual Split By Bill Cottringer “Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha. One such truth is the awesome power of threes. Just consider the influence of the threes in pyramids, the Christian trinity, colors of traffic lights, a tri-fold ...
Views: 137 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For His Fathers Support If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man missed out on the support that he needed from his father throughout his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. Furthermore, he might seldom if ever even think about this stage of his life. But, when it does come to this stage of his life, he could think about ...
Views: 118 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Believe That She Is Entitled To His Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it doesn’t mean that his mother will feel uncomfortable with what is going on. Instead, she can believe that he is behaving in the right way. What this can show is that she doesn’t realise that he has his own needs and is here to ...
Views: 122 - Feel The Support - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2024 from Rick HansonWe're all carrying a load, including tasks, challenges, worries, inner criticism, mistreatment from others, physical and emotional pain, loss and illness now or later, and everyday stresses and frustrations. Take a moment to get a sense of your own load. It's very real, isn't it? ...
Views: 137 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man is behaving, that’s if he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, is that he is more like her parent than her son. He will then have been born after her but will be as though he was born before her. However, although he will be playing a parental role, he might not be ...
Views: 124 - Hidden Truth About Codependent Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2024 from Darlene LancerThere’s a saying, “The ending is in the beginning.” Codependent relationship problems start with their low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, and their idealization of love — that it will solve their deeper problems, including shame, which generates beliefs such as: “If I’m loved, I’m lovable,” ...
Views: 144(1 vote) - Ten Sensible Problem-Solving Strategies From the Trenches - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2024 from William CottringerTen Sensible Problem-Solving Strategies From the Trenches by Bill Cottringer Life is a series of problem-solving opportunities. The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you depending on how you respond to them. ~Rick Warren. Life presents us with three different sets ...
Views: 141 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have A Narcissistic Defence? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is neglecting himself because he is too focused on his mother, he might need to talk to her about what is going on. He might want to explain to her that behaving in this way is not serving him and he no longer wants to do as much for her. Unsurprisingly, as he ...
Views: 135 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Make “The Unconscious Conscious”? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man can see that he is out of balance, due to how caught up he is with his mother’s needs, two things can cross his mind. First, he can wonder why he is this way and, second, if there is anything that he can do to change his life. Now, he might soon see that he has been this way for as ...
Views: 122 - How Therapy Helps With Stress Management - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2024 from Jhon BombStress has become an almost unavoidable part of modern life, affecting people in various ways, from physical discomfort to emotional distress. While occasional stress is normal, chronic stress can lead to serious health problems if left unmanaged. Thankfully, therapy offers an effective way to ...
Views: 141 - Let Things Change - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2024 from Rick HansonThe fifth of my personal Top 5 practices (all tied for first place) is open out, by which I mean relaxing into a growing sense of connection, even oneness, with all things. "Opening out" can sound kind of airy-fairy or flaky, but I mean it is very down-to-earth ways; check out these JOTs ...
Views: 137 - Four Main Perspectives in the Game of Life - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from William CottringerFour Main Perspectives in the Game of Life By Bill Cottringer The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective. ~Al Neuharth. Heroes, Villains, Victims and Bystanders There are only four choices, For all the unheard voices: Be an honorable hero, And gain ...
Views: 142 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As Her Saviour? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, he can wonder why he is this way. But, if he is behaving more like her parent than her son, it is to be expected he would be confused. He can spend a lot of time doing things for her and listening to her problems and providing ...
Views: 116 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man behaves as though he is merely an extension of his mother, it is going to be clear that he needs to change his behaviour. Ultimately, he is not here to be his mother’s slave; he is here to live his own life. However, even though he will need to change his behaviour, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 134 - Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is more like his mothers parent than her son. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time doing things for her. Yet, even when he is not doing anything for her, he could still spend a lot of time ...
Views: 128 - The Silent Struggle: Mental Health Challenges Among Business Professionals and the Path to Recovery - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from M Nasir AzizIn today’s fast-paced, high-stress world, mental health challenges have become a growing concern across various professions. From the boardroom to the classroom, the operating room to the courtroom, business professionals in diverse fields face immense pressures that can lead to burnout, ...
Views: 135 - The Evolution of Therapy Chairs: From Basic to Advanced - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2024 from Suajin ThomasThe design and functionality of therapy chairs have undergone significant transformations over the years. What once began as simple, utilitarian seating has evolved into highly specialized furniture designed to enhance comfort, support, and therapeutic outcomes. This evolution reflects broader ...
Views: 151 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have Narcissistic Tendencies? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and ignores himself, he can struggle to understand why he is this way. What could be clear is that it doesn’t make any sense for him to be this way. He could believe that he should be focused on his own life, not focused on his ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear That They Are Going To Die If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone fears that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be aware of this. Now, there will be a time when their life will come to an end; of course, death is part of life. However, the difference here is that when it comes to the former, this will be ...
Views: 134 - A Mad Mystic’s Guide to Sanity Amidst this Never-Ending Tsunami of Change, Change, Change - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2024 from joan pancoeA Mad Mystic’s Guide to Sanity Amidst this Never-Ending Tsunami of Change, Change, Change TO ACTIVATE ALL LINKS AND VIEW ALL IMAGES ...
Views: 150(1 vote) - Accept Them as They Are - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2024 from Rick HansonI admit it: whether close to home or far away, I wish some people were different. Depending on who they are, I wish they'd stop doing things like leaving cabinet doors open in our kitchen, sending me spam emails, or turning a blind eye to global warming. And I wish they'd start doing things like ...
Views: 139 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Disembodied Sense Of Self If He Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to generally live in his head and thus, be out of touch with his feelings and instincts. He is then going to look like a whole human being but he typically won’t operate as one. But, if this is just what is normal, he might not be aware of how alienated he is ...
Views: 132 - The Law of Attraction – Transforming Thoughts Into Reality - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2025 from Paul JenkinLaw of Attraction is a concept that many of us have heard before. It is a concept that posits how like attracts like, meaning that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person’s life. With this thought process, you take charge of your life by aligning ...
Views: 151 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Empty If His Mother Was Unable To Love Him? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man feels as if something is missing, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. One reason for this is that he could live in a way that allows him to avoid how he feels. So, he could spend a lot of time in doing mode, which will stop him from having to be with how ...
Views: 131 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Believe That Their True Self Is Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they tend to hide their needs and how they feel. Along with this, there might also be parts of themselves and interests that they keep hidden. Due to this, most, if not all, of the people in their life are not ...
Views: 122 - Accept It - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2024 from Rick HansonAs general clusters that each include a number of specific methods, my Top 5 types of practices (all tied for first place) are: Be mindful Love Take in the good Go green Open out The practice of “go green” helps you get out of the brain’s ...
Views: 135 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Traumatised To Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is not going to be able to live his own life. To use an analogy, it will be as though he is driving a car and instead of driving where he needs to go, he continually follows another car. But, even though he will be ...
Views: 129 - Understanding Mental Health in the United States: A Growing Crisis - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2024 from M Nasir AzizMental health has become a critical issue in the United States, with millions of Americans experiencing mental health challenges every year. Despite increased awareness and a growing recognition of the importance of mental well-being, the nation continues to grapple with a mental health crisis ...
Views: 157 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Midlife Crisis? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in their forties or fifties, they could have a deep sense that something is missing. This can mean that certain parts of their life are no longer satisfying, or this could relate to their whole life. Along with the sense that they are living in the wrong way, they can ...
Views: 111 - Unraveling Female Narcissism - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2024 from Darlene LancerFemale narcissists can be harder to spot; first, because they’re less numerous, and second, because their behavior may be less assertive and public compared to male narcissists. Male narcissists outnumber female narcissists nearly three to one. However, narcissistic personality disorder is on ...
Views: 162(1 vote) - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Controlled By His Inner Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, a man is free to do what is right for him and live his own life. However, if he spends most of his life focused on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to realise this. In fact, he might not even realise that he is overly focused on his mother let alone that he has the ...
Views: 116 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, someone might have suffered from depression. As a result of this, they can typically have a low mode, not be able to experience pleasure or be interested in doing a great deal. Due to this, days, weeks, months and even years might have passed by but they won’t have ...
Views: 142 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone’s Parent Have Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, they may find that they have the inclination to ignore their own needs and be there for others. After this, they might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Naturally, by being this way, a number ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone’s Parent Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child. If so, throughout this stage of their life, they ...
Views: 117 - Grow Inner Strengths - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2024 from Rick HansonI've hiked a lot and have often had to depend on what was in my pack. Inner strengths are the supplies you've got in your pack as you make your way down the twisting and often hard road of life. They include a positive mood, common sense, integrity, inner peace, determination, and a warm heart. ...
Views: 149 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Fear Intimacy If They Had An Intrusive Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will want to experience deeper connections with others, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. So, they could find that other people are out of reach and they are unable to get close to them. As a result, they might not have any close friends and they might not have ...
Views: 130 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear That He Would Lose Himself If He Left His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, he might soon feel the need to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. However, this doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with her and start living his ...
Views: 137 - Digital Dopamine - Are You Hooked on the Wrong High? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2024 from Juan BendanaAs our screens become a central part of our lives, it’s crucial to understand if digital dopamine is taking a toll on your well-being In our increasingly connected world, digital devices have become integral to daily life. However, the constant stream of notifications, likes, and updates can ...
Views: 168 - 5 Warning Signs of Gambling Addiction You Shouldn't Ignore - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2024 from Juan BendanaGambling can start as a simple thrill, but when it takes over, it becomes a serious concern. For some, it's a harmless pastime. For others, it is a dangerous path to trouble. In a world where placing a bet is as easy as tapping a screen, the line between fun and addiction blurs quickly. ...
Views: 163 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have ...
Views: 152 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trying To Be Seen And Heard By His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man generally wasn’t seen and heard by his mother during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he no longer has these needs. He can then be in a position where just about his whole life revolves around his mother and his need to be seen and heard by her. However, if behaving in this ...
Views: 130 - Child Abuse: Can An Enabling Father Do As Much Damage As An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their formative years, they may see that this stage of their life was not very nurturing. This may have been a time when their mother was often abusive. Assuming that this was the case, they wouldn’t have had a mother who was very maternal. It would ...
Views: 157 - Enjoy Four Kinds of Peace - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2024 from Rick Hanson“Peace” can sound merely sentimental or clichéd (“visualize whirled peas”). But deep down, it’s what most of us long for. Consider the proverb: The highest happiness is peace. Not a peace inside that ignores pain in oneself or others or is acquired by shutting down. This is a durable ...
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