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- The First Necessary Step in Preparation for the Practice of the Integral Yoga - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2022 from santosh krinskyOne can clearly appreciate the unique nature of the integral yoga when one reflects on the preparation needed for the practice when compared to the preparations required for numerous other paths of yoga. The 8 steps set forth in Patanjali’s yoga sutras include two preparatory stages, called ...
Views: 126 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Is Not Responsible For His Mothers Well-Being? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man might not be consciously aware of this, his main priority could be to make sure that his mother is ok. Then again, there could be times when it goes further than this, with him having the need to make sure that she is happy. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for ...
Views: 132 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father Emasculated? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother, a man could believe that he would be different if his mother hadn’t used him during his early years. This could show that he has thought a lot about what took place when he was a boy. He will then have come to see that he was forced ...
Views: 107 - Obtaining a Clear Perception and Understanding of Life Purpose and Significance - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from santosh krinskyIf we examine closely our mental state when we undertake activities with which we are familiar, experienced and educated, we see that our minds are sharp, our perceptions are detailed and our understanding is precise. We find it easiest to achieve this status with external things, although some ...
Views: 161 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Repress His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he rarely if ever gets angry, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. What this can mean is that it is normal for him to be walked over, taken advantage of and not stand his ground. This could be something that he experiences each week if not every ...
Views: 128 - Belonging: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Felt Sense Of Belonging? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon enter their mind is that they often feel unwelcome and as though they don’t deserve to be somewhere. This could be something that they experience when they are at work, with friends and even with family. Due to this, they ...
Views: 149 - There are big changes to car seat covers on the horizon - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2022 from Abdul KarimThe automotive industry is set to see significant changes in car seating and car seat covers. As more car companies invest in developing autonomous driving solutions, it is soon likely that the interior of cars will begin to look different, as there will be less need to structure seating around ...
Views: 135 - The Psychic Entity Knows the Purpose and Significance of Our Existence - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2022 from santosh krinskyWhen we live primarily, or entirely, focused on our external life via the instruments of the body, life-force and mind, we cannot determine nor recognise the purpose and significance of our existence. We may speculate. We may hold opinions. We may adhere to some doctrine, such as a religious ...
Views: 109 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Emotionally Underdeveloped? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone doesn’t need to be a psychologist to realise that something isn’t right if a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself. The average person is likely to be able to see that he is living in a way that is not serving him. But, although this is something that can be ...
Views: 109 - All Female Funerals - Women Changing the Face of the Funeral Industry - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Marta JordanThe passing away of a loved one is a trying time for any family. It can be challenging to think of funeral arrangements as the family wants to grieve the passing away of the family member. Funeral services are a helping hand in such a scenario as they take the entire responsibility on their ...
Views: 143 - Do We Know What We Seek in Our Lives? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from santosh krinskyWe feel like something is missing in our lives. It could be something material, it could be just a pang of hunger or thirst. It could be a sense of emotional emptiness, unattached to a specific object. We may feel like we need to find out something, do something, know something, respond to ...
Views: 134 - Inner Security: Can Someone Be Consumed By Their Need To Feel Secure If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they spend a lot of time trying to settle themselves down. This is going to show that they find it hard to feel at ease. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, what is ...
Views: 118 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Redefine Himself? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has spent most if not all of his life focusing on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to have a very empowering view of himself. Even so, this doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, why would he be aware of this? How ...
Views: 97 - The Usefulness of Suffering - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2022 from santosh krinskyDr. Dean Ornish held a webinar on Sunday November 20, 2022 with the Vegan Society of Honolulu, Hawaii, in which he succinctly explained the role of suffering in the progress of humanity. For those who do not know about his work, Dr. Ornish has spent decades studying the impact of diet and ...
Views: 117 - See the Person Behind the Eyes - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2022 from Rick HansonMost of us wear a kind of mask, a persona that hides our deepest thoughts and feelings and presents a polished, controlled face to the world. To be sure, a persona is a good thing to have. For example, meetings at work, holidays with the in-laws, or a first date are usually not the best time to ...
Views: 120 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: What Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have In Common With A Spartan Warrior? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOver two thousand years ago, in a place called Sparta, males were trained from a young age to fight. As part of their training, they went through numerous challenges in order for them to be moulded into warriors. It then didn’t matter what any of these males wanted to do with their life as ...
Views: 117 - Progressively Becoming Conscious - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from santosh krinskyEveryone believes they are ‘conscious’. Spiritual seekers, especially, having awakened from the purely mechanical, habitual processes of the external life, certainly believe they are conscious. Those who believe in various religious traditions, by virtue of that belief, accept that they are ...
Views: 113 - Anger Problems: Can A Man Use Anger To Mask His Hurt? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel angry and this could be something that the people in his life are only too aware of. The reason for this is that he could often come across as intense and rude. It might go further, though, as there could be moments when he is violent and destroys ...
Views: 81 - Exploring the Stages and Phases of Inner Growth of the Human Individual - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2022 from santosh krinskyWhen we read Sri Aurobindo’s aphorism noted below, we tend to focus on the second part of the equation, the “bar” to achieving the higher result. There is an implication thereby that we have already achieved the first part and that we are thus ready to proceed to the next phase or stage of inner ...
Views: 113 - Emotional Problems: Can A Man Feel Isolated If He Has Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will end up reaching out for the support that he needs. He might not even share what is going on for him with his friends or family, for instance. As a result of this, he could have a number of people in his life that would be happy to ...
Views: 82 - Habits, Human Life and Achieving Individuality … and Beyond - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2022 from santosh krinskyAs the seeker begins to examine his life, he quickly finds that virtually all his thoughts, emotions, feelings and actions are based on habitual patterns, either ingrained in the human encoding as a species, or developed through socialisation in a society or civilisation, through family ...
Views: 136 - The Benefit of Obstacles and Difficulties for the Development of Conscious Awareness - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2022 from santosh krinskyIt is a quality of human nature. When things are going well, we are happy and contented, we tend not to make extraordinary efforts or focus on change. We feel like things are where they should be in our lives, and we move into ‘enjoyment mode’ rather than ‘change mode’. In some cases, we believe ...
Views: 135 - The Semi-Conscious Life We Lead - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2022 from santosh krinskyIf we reflect carefully, we will recognise that much of what takes place in our lives occurs without our conscious awareness, participation or control. The activity of the cells, the nervous system, the internal organs are all virtually automatic functions that elude conscious oversight. Very ...
Views: 118 - The Evolutionary Cycle and the Speeding Up of the Evolutionary Cycle - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from santosh krinskyWhen we reflect on the evolution of consciousness, it becomes obvious to us that nothing can evolve out of Matter that is not already involved in some way. We plant an acorn, and an oak tree grows. Someone unfamiliar with the science would treat this as a magical event. We put one form of ...
Views: 127 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen By Women If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds ...
Views: 124 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen By Women If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds ...
Views: 119 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To See Human Contact As A Threat To Their Survival? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it is going to mean that it is important for them to experience human contact. This is something that will have a positive effect on their wellbeing. Nonetheless, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will experience a great deal of ...
Views: 101 - Anxiety: Can Unmet Developmental Needs Play A Part In Why Someone Feels Anxious? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those who experience anxiety from time to time and those who more or less always feel anxious. When someone can relate to the latter, they might want to lose the ability to be anxious. This may show that they have experienced life in this for a few months or a number of years. But, ...
Views: 84 - Understanding the Cycles and Phases of Spiritual Development - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2022 from santosh krinskySeveral days ago a seeker raised a question, rephrased here: “I read Sri Aurobindo’s writings regularly and for a time they stay active within me, but then, it falls away and I feel blank inside. Am I losing the benefit of Sri Aurobindo’s teaching, and if so, how can I ensure that it stays ...
Views: 137 - Tell the Truth, Play Fair - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2022 from Rick HansonPerhaps like you, I’ve been worrying lately about what it will take for all of us to live together in peace. I remember what I’ve heard many teachers say to their students: Tell the truth. Play fair. This is what we ask our own kids to do. It’s what we look for in a friend, a boss, and a ...
Views: 108 - Following the Right Path to Divine Realisation - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from santosh krinskyWe very easily fall into the mistaken idea that the path we follow is the best way to approach the Divine or achieve spiritual realisation and that other paths are either less effective or do not provide the complete liberation from the ego-personality. We also tend to accept the idea that ...
Views: 131 - Survival: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel As Though Their Survival Is Constantly Under Threat? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can live a life where they often feel as though they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if they are not aware of this, they are still likely to suffer. What can be normal is for them to experience a lot of anxiety and ...
Views: 106 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay In The Background If They Had A Verbally Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch a film, they might soon find that there is the main actor and then there are a number of supporting actors. Once the film has come to an end, what may stand out, if they were to reflect on their own life, is that they have a lot in common with a supporting actor. The ...
Views: 105 - Elements Common to the Paths of Inner Growth - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2022 from santosh krinskyIn Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras, there are 8 limbs, or steps, systematically presented as the basis for the practice of Yoga. The first two of these, known as yamas and niyamas present preliminary practices to purify and stabilize the being to prepare for the practice of yoga. Many people consider ...
Views: 135 - Three Primary Paths of Inner Growth and Spiritual Development - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2022 from santosh krinskyEach individual has a unique way of relating to and developing his spiritual aspiration. Those who are more intellectually inclined may find that they naturally incline towards what is known as the yoga of knowledge. Those who have a nature more inclined to devotion and emotional expression may ...
Views: 128 - The Development of the Psychic Being - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2022 from santosh krinskyWe can identify a systematic evolution of consciousness in the external world. Life evolves out of Matter, Mind out of Life. We do not, however, thereby determine either a significance or purpose to this evolution nor any causative factors that involve mind and life into matter such that they ...
Views: 113 - Inner Security: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing Inner Security? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel all at sea internally or to be in a shut down state and unable to feel anything. Experiencing life in this way is likely to make it hard for them to appreciate their time on this planet. Due to how unstable they often feel, then, their need to feel ...
Views: 95 - The Nature, Character and Evolutionary Role of the Psychic Entity, the Soul - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from santosh krinskyThe Rishis of the Rig Veda place Agni at the beginning and in a central role in the spiritual development they described. The flame of aspiration, the ‘knower of all things born’, the mystic fire is the starting point for spiritual growth. This flame resides in the psychic being, the soul, ...
Views: 133 - Tips on How to Break Drug Addiction - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Abdul KarimThere are many ways to define addiction. Here, we will focus on drug addiction, and specifically, tips on how to break drug addiction. First, it is important to understand that addiction is a disease. It is not a choice or a moral failing. Second, addiction is a chronic condition, which means ...
Views: 132 - Child Abuse: Why Can’t An Abusive Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they might have a strong need to talk to them about it. However, it might have taken them a while to realise that this stage of their life wasn’t very nurturing. This is because their brain will have blocked ...
Views: 122 - The Influence of Inner Planes of Consciousness on the Outer Life of the Individual - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from santosh krinskyIn The Life Divine, Sri Aurobindo devotes a chapter to the ‘sevenfold ignorance’. While we are fixated on our external mind, life and body and the life we lead in the external world, we remain ignorant of the forces at work, behind the scenes, to create what we call our being and personality, ...
Views: 122 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Take Away Someone’s Desire To Attach To Others? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They can spend a lot of time by themselves and have very little if any interest in being around others. This is not to say that they won’t have any friends but it is likely that they won’t be ...
Views: 119 - Emotional Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are typically out of touch with how they feel, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. But, if this is how they how been for quite some time, there will be no reason for it to stand out. And, as they are likely to live in a society that is full ...
Views: 95 - Are You Overly Stressed Out? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2022 from Judi MoreoBy Judi Moreo Stress is something we all face at one time or another. It drains us of our ability to be the best we can be. In many cases, we can overcome stress and move on with our lives. Stress tends to appear in short bursts throughout our lives. But when it is more frequent and longer ...
Views: 158 - The Subtle Higher Forces of Existence Create Our External Being and Action - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2022 from santosh krinskyWhen looked at from the outside, it seems that Matter came first and out of Matter arose Life and out of Life arose Mind. What is not addressed here is how material forces were able to create life and intelligence, in a seemingly random fashion. This is why some religious traditions posit that ...
Views: 131 - "Us" all "Thems" - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2022 from Rick HansonBy “us” all “thems,” I mean finding common ground with every person – especially those you fear or are angry with or who are simply very different from you. These days this practice is more important than ever. For most of the past 300,000 years, our human ancestors lived in small bands of ...
Views: 132 - Glimpses and Experiences of the Inner Being, and the Shift of the Consciousness from the Outer to the Inner - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2022 from santosh krinskyIf we focus on the experience of our normal, daily lives, we will find that it can be characterised by a specific feeling or quality that we know as our usual experience. While each individual may have a different characterisation of this experience, some happy, some sad, some joyful, some ...
Views: 256 - Inner Growth Differs from Modern Concepts of Growth of Awareness - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2022 from santosh krinskyWe have seen a phenomenal growth of practices that bring attention to our daily actions. Mindfulness training asks us to attend to each movement, each step, each bite of food, and each thought and emotion. Clearly with the amount of distraction we suffer from as a result of our love affair with ...
Views: 146 - Mother Wounds: Can Early Neglect Cause A Man To Fear Being Seen By A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man fears being seen by a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. But, even if he is not consciously aware of this, what he fears is still going to have an effect on how he experiences life. The reason why he is not aware of what is going on is that he could be out of touch ...
Views: 95 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Their Needs Won’t Be Met? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of all of them. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to meet all their needs. By living in this way, they are going to be depriving themselves of a lot of what they need. They can ...
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