Timothy Arends

"Let’s be honest: being a good conversationalist does play a role in how popular we are. In fact, conversational skill and poise is probably as important as any other factor in attracting other people to us. If people find us interesting and stimulating they will tend to enjoy and seek out our company. In other words, possessing an appealing skill, such as good conversational ability, makes us more appealing to other people."  

"Remember is that the greater the number of people you strike up a conversation with, the greater your chances of forging new friendships. I won’t go so far as to say you will never be snubbed, but if you are, so what? There are plenty of other “fish in the sea” and there are plenty of other people out there just waiting to meet somebody like you!"   

"Joining a volunteer group is a great way of meeting compatible people. If you’re interested in the environment, join an environmental group. If you’re concerned about illiteracy, join a literacy tutoring program. You’ll meet people who not only share the same interests, but probably the same sensitivities as well. Of course, you must be genuinely concerned about the issue the group is involved in. If you join such a group merely as a means to meet other people, the others will spot your phoniness and resent you for it. You probably won’t find the people you meet very interesting, either. However, when you stick with a volunteer group, you automatically create a sense of partnership with others. You demonstrate that you have a genuine concern and interest in the things other people are concerned about!" 

"The man or woman who possesses self confidence is impressive to the opposite sex for the same reasons that he or she is impressive to anyone else. People naturally think that there must be some underlying reason for all this self-confidence" 

“Flirting is not some enigmatic, indefinable quantity. In fact, effective flirting consists of these five simple steps:

1. Make eye contact.

2. Smile.

3. Use an opening line.

4. Expand the conversation by telling something of yourself.

5. Encourage the other person to open up and talk about whatever interests him or her—careers, hobbies or interests." 

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Tim has also created "Break out of Your Shell! How to Overcome Shyness So You Can Get On with Your Life!" a complete training system available at at http://www.shyfacts.com.