My name is Nate Rivers, and I'm the one in the middle in the
picture. My story starts a few years ago because before that, there was
no story. Three years ago I was out of shape, had a job I hated, and
had no fun in life because social situations made me extremely nervous.
I was frustrated with life and I wanted more, but I felt overwhelmed by all the things I knew I would have to do to change it.
The
first thing I started doing was reading self-help books. Tony Robbin's
books were the ones that really clicked with me. He talks a lot about
modeling: find someone who has done what you want to do and just
copy what they did so you don't have to spend time making your own
mistakes.
One of the other things I wanted to change was my success with
women. I didn't want to be a womanizer or anything, but I hated how I
felt when I saw an attractive girl and I didn't have the courage to
talk to her. Every cute girl I saw was basically a reminder that I was a wuss.
So
I got online and bought a few of the most popular "how to pick up
women" programs. They were good too, don't get me wrong. They had tons
of info on what to say and how to act around attractive women. The
problem I found, was that I was still too scared to go out and try the techniques on real women.
My fear of talking to women I didn't know took me A YEAR AND A HALF to get over.
It was not an easy process for me. I had to make up my own little
exercises to build up the courage to even try the stuff the gurus were
teaching me in their programs.(I've compiled all of these exercises and
what I learned into my own program that you can check out here)
Anyways,
I finally got that handled and it has made me so much more confident in
myself, and it makes life a lot more enjoyable. And its not even about dating a bunch of women, its that I overcame one of my biggest fears and overcame something that bothered me so much for so long.
I believe facing and conquering your biggest fears is the BEST WAY to live a happier, more fulfilled life.
About the same time I started overcoming my fear of approaching women,
I started working out. I wanted to get in shape for a lot of reasons,
but mostly just to feel good. Whenever I bent over to tie my shoe or
pick something up, I just felt like it was harder than it should be for
how young I was. Or when I would play sports with my friends I would be
extremely winded after just a few minutes.
Getting in shape wasn't as
challenging as approaching women because it didn't really deal with a
fear. Getting up and going to the gym was relatively easy compared to
going up and approaching a woman I didn't know. But it was tough
mentally to go day in and day out and to not quit workouts early.
Changing
my eating habits was also really tough. I basically followed the Body
For Life Plan where I would eat clean all week and then pig out on
Saturdays.
Thats a short version of my story. I am proud of
myself, and I am continually progressing and building on my successes.
I know its cliche to say this, but if I was able to change things
around for myself, ANYONE can. Keep it real.
Nate Rivers