James Gand

Keeping the intimacy in your relationship is paramount to having a successful partnership.

Be aware of yourself and start where you are and build from there. By starting with yourself and gaining a full understanding of who you are and how you want to be treated will help you relate to your partner in a truthful and honest way. Starting with yourself will help to let your partner know exactly where you stand. The form of intimacy where you feel most comfort and have the most confidence is where you should begin. 

Perhaps a particular form of intimacy is difficult for you to express, whether thats physical, intellectual, emotional, or sexual, you should work slow towards to goal of getting more intimate with your partner. Do not push yourself into a place where you are uncomfortable as this can cause you or your partner to feel unsettled and may defeat the purpose of the exercise in intimacy. If you find you are more comfortable with mental/intellectual intimacy, start by sharing thoughts, talking with that special person about their opinions and ideas. When you become comfortable in an intimate relationship on an intellectual level, then other intimate areas can be explored and developed.

Once you have accepted and feel that you have explored and fulfulled your intellectual intimacy fully. Then perhaps you are ready to move on to physical intimacy and exploring your partner in this manner. You begin by talking to your partner about their desires and tell your partner about your desires. Perhaps a rather easy way to create some excitement and playful intimacy is to experiment with lingerie. This can help you with role play and can lead to some interesting revelations about yourself and your partner. The key is to not be afraid of experimenting and exploring your desires.