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Ann Silvers MA, LMHC, RH
Ann Silvers Quick Facts
Main Areas: Partner Abuse, Abuse of men by women, communication skills, emotional intelligence, relationship skills, anxietyBest Sellers: Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, and It's Time to Get Real About It
Career Focus: Counselor, Relationship Coach, Author, Speaker
Affiliation: Silvers Publishing, LLC and Silverstream Unlimited, PLLC
I am a licensed Mental Health Counselor (WA State), relationship coach, and author. I have a Bachelor's Degree in Psychology with a Minor in Women's Studies, a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology, and 30 years' experience helping people improve their communication and relationship skills.
I have published many products that I developed while working with women and men as couples and individuals.
One of my areas of expertise is partner abuse--particularly when the source of the abuse is a woman and the target of the abuse is a man. I have been educated in the subject of partner abuse through academic study, personal experience being the target of abuse by a partner, work with clients, and discussions with many women and men who have shared their personal stories with me.
In my book, Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, and It's Time to Get Real About It, I tackle this underserved topic.
Find out more about me at www.annsilvers.com.
Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Ann Silvers
Who Am I and What Do I Bring to The Topic of Abuse Of Men By Women
I understand partner abuse because I have witnessed it, studied it, and lived it.
I have a legacy of abuse on both sides of my family tree. On my mom's branch were three brothers, including my grandfather, who married three sisters. All three men were tyrants, abusing their children and wives. My father's family was the flip side of the same story. My paternal grandmother, Lavina, was an abuisve mother and wife who outlived her quiet-spoken, beaten-down husband.
I know what it is like to be the target of abuse from a partner. I experienced financial, psychological, and emotional abuse by a boyfriend. It took me a long time to figure out what was going on. He was determined to destroy me. I became dietermined to not let that happen.
There are people who object to the subject of women abusing men being acknowledged because they worry that it somehow undermines women's rights. Let me assure you, I am not anti-female or anti-women's rights. I came of age with, and participated in, the women's movement. Long before I became interested in the topic of abuse of men by women, I spent a lot of time and energy studying partner abuse in relationships where women are the targets.
When I went back to school in my thirties to become a counselor, my college degrees included a Minor in Women's Studies. I have participated in many events promoting the advancement of women, including the United Nations Conference on Women in Beijing in 1995.
Until I witnessed a male friend being abused by his wife, I was among the hordes that don't appreciate the amount of abuse men are expereincing from their female partners or the devastation that it creates. My eyes were opened through that experience.
Once my eyes were opened, I saw how prevalent abuse of men by women is. I realized I had been missing it in some of my clients and I became much better at recognizing the signs that a woman was being abusive or a man was being abused.
Since I started talking about my interest in abuse of men by women, people have been coming out of the woodwork with their stories. Sometimes it's men who have been, or are currently being, abused by a wife, girlfriend, or ex. Sometimes it's family members who have suffered through watching their beloved brother, father, or son be manipulated and abused, or endured the loss of him from their lives as he attempts ot please an unreasonable partner.
Even now, when I think I have become acclimatized to how widespread the problem is, I am sometimes still taken aback by the frequency at which I randomly bump into people who have been direclty impacted by a woman abusing a man.
I have become keenly aware of the infomation vacuum that exists for, and about, men, women, and fmailies in this situation. I am frustrated by partner abuse resources that give lip service to the existence of abuse of men by women but then provide only examples where "he" abuses and "she" is the target.
This information void spurred me on to write my book, "Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It."
You can find out more at www.annsilvers.com
I'm Not Just About Bad Relationships
I also have expertise in what makes relationships healthy, happy, and rewarding. I have been helping people improve their relationships with others and with themselves for many years.
You can find out more at www.annsivers.com
