Roughly 80% of the divorces filed are done so by women. This trend seems to indicate that more women are unhappy in their marriages than their male counterpart. Here are some questions to ask yourself before deciding to file for divorce.

What is the Full Scope of the Situation?

Before deciding to take the next step towards divorce, you need to have a conversation with your spouse. They may be unaware of how the relationship is affecting you. A part of marriage is compromise. This can sometimes lead to expectations on both sides of the equation. Things may have changed since you first were married. Relationships have to evolve as you age. Having a conversation to discuss what you want out the relationship may get you both on the same page.

Are There Any Other Options?

Carefully consider if divorce is your only option. Your spouse may be willing to see a therapist with you. This can provide you with a safe environment to air your grievances. You may just need some help developing the tools to make your marriage work. Another option is to live apart for a little while. Having this space can help you to make a clearer and more informed decision about your life. You may find that you can’t live without your spouse.

How Will This Impact the Children?

Divorce will have an impact on your children. This doesn’t mean that you need to stay together for the sake of the children. You just need to take into consideration the best way to handle the situation. Both your spouse and you need to discuss living and parenting arrangements. Consult with a lawyer so that you’re aware of your rights while going through this process. They can help you develop a parenting plan, and other things that you may not have taken into account.

What will the Financial Implications Be?

A divorce may be a huge financial hardship for you. You have to seriously consider if you can survive on one income. If you still have children living at home, this may be more than you can handle. There may be things that you will have to cut back on in your life. You will also have to consider the division of assets with a divorce. Retirement accounts and your home may need to be divided. This can set you back on your plans to retire.

Every relationship has its ups and downs. Ask yourself if you can make it work before deciding to file for divorce.

Author's Bio: 

Hannah Whittenly is a freelance writer and mother of two from Sacramento, CA. She enjoys kayaking and reading books by the lake.