There is a well-worm saying that suggests that perception is, in fact, reality. And, no matter how most thinking people might laugh off such a notion, the fact is that for the normal mind, reality is just that - the sum total of our perceptions. How we perceive the world, how it works and our place in it dictates how we behave. Most importantly of all, our own self-perception creates our reality - or, at least, our version of it.

And the normal person's version of reality is very sad indeed - in comparison to the world full of excitement and opportunity that is before your very eyes... were you of a mind to open them.

People that I work with often tell me that they lack self-discipline, self-confidence, self-esteem or that they are too self-depracating. There are a lot of 'selfs' in that last sentence and none of them provide us with a real insight into the problem - because none of these perceived inadequacies have anything to do with the self. These 'self'-descriptors relate to personality, not self.

Personality, derived from the Latin word, persona, meaning a mask, is not even a figment of your own imagination. It is the sum total of all the things that impressed you for better and, more often, for worse, during your formative years. Now, as an adult, you're stuck with your preconceived notions regardless of the blatently obvious fact that your formative years are long gone and are of little practicla relevane to the here and now.

So discard the false perceptions that are holding you back. Discard them by focusing in the here and now. When you do, you'll be present - and those with presence always make just the right impression that will lead them to where they want to go in life.

Author's Bio: 

Willie Horton is an Irish self-help and personal development author and trainer living in the French Alps. He has been working in the field of personal development since 1996 with clients such as Pfizer, Deloitte, Allergan, KMPG, Nestle and DHL. He is creator of Gurdy.Net – the Personal Development Website and author of Normal Crazy People and To Succeed... Just Let Go.