We’ve all been through situations in relationships where the person we’re dealing with drains us. Well, as I thought about this, I began to get an image in my head of a battery and I think it’s enough to the point that I wanted to share it with you.

We all know that batteries require charging. Take your cell phone for example; the battery can hold a charge for something like 3 hours of talking, 6 hours of standby, etc. After these periods, it needs to be recharged. Now, there are two other relevant facts about this; one, you need to provide the battery with a stable charge, not just a “trickle charge”, and two, your battery has memory. After periods without a complete charge, it doesn’t fill up as it once did. This memory serves to lower your talk time and your stand by time.

Well, relationships aren’t much different. Are they? There are people in our lives who charge us up and others who drain us. And, much like batteries, we have cellular memory that partially determines whether we get a “good charge” or a trickle charge.

I just complete a book called “the Healing Codes” and it refers to something called “cellular memory”. The idea here is simple; Einstein proved in his work that energy and mass are ultimately the same thing. His famous formula E=MC2 is the direct mathematical relationship between matter and energy. Taken to its logical extent, the human body therefore has energy at the cellular level.

When we are engaged in activities with people who increase our stress levels, people who may know exactly how to “push our buttons”, well, those people can drain our battery faster than your cell phone’s battery
How to you re-charge? Well, each one of us is slightly different but basics hold true for all of us. Talking with a friend or family member can often re-charge us. We’ve discussed in other SBG Casts that taking a walk or changing environments can sometimes reduce stress. But ultimately, in your relationships, you have to talk it out. Find the common ground as best you can with the person engaged in the stressful relationship with you. My guess is they’re feeling stress too and they’d like nothing more than eliminating that drained feeling.

If you find you can’t talk it out, as harsh as it sounds, my experience says separate. Remember the pilot who comes on the aircraft and says “put your oxygen mask on first, and then help your neighbor”. Well, if your battery is drained by a relationship, what good are you to anyone else? You’ll just end up draining someone else to re-charge you. That’s certainly ok from time to time, but it seems to me, that to live a fulfilled life, you need to avoid relationships that so severely cause your battery to discharge and thus cause you to charge your battery by draining someone else’s.

I’m Steve Beaman and thanks for listening.

Author's Bio: 

Steve Beaman is the Author of "Happiness & Prosperity in the 21st Century: The Five Paths To a Transformed Life". He has authored over 100 articles relating to the Five Paths including articles on Financial Prosperity, Emotional Wellness, Physical Health, Intellectual fulfillment, and Spiritual Security. He enjoyed a highly successful career in Economics and Finance prior to establishing The Steve Beaman Group. The "SBG" is an orginization dedicated to helping people on their journey's of life.