When You Can’t Stop Crying!

Friend, let me be there for you! I may not know you, but I know how it feels when you can’t stop crying.

Pain and the accompanying broken heart and anguish and despair sometimes overwhelm us to the point that all we can do is cry. Sometimes just the littlest thing will trigger it. We don’t even know why we started crying, but there it goes again. Once we start, sometimes we just can’t stop.

I know that when I would cry and cry, I would be so worn out from it all that all I wanted to do was sleep. Make sure you are getting extra sleep during this time.

I want to encourage you to seek God with your pain and let Him put His healing balm on your broken heart and soul. There is no greater comfort than being held in the arms of your Father. He feels your pain with you and wants to comfort you. If it hadn’t been for God helping me I never would have made it through the most difficult time of my life. He will be there for you also.

You know, the medical community says that crying is actually good for us. I don’t know the science behind it all, but I know that it releases things inside us that need to be released for if we held them in we would burst. When you feel the urge to cry, don’t hold it in. I mean, you know, if you are in a public setting or something you would normally try and wait until you can be alone. Let the healing tears flow and release all the pent up frustration and pain. Let it out! Don’t hold it in!

I could tell you all kinds of things to help you not cry, but I believe when your pain is fresh, it is best to let it out and cry any time you need to. We like to put on a smiling face like everything is okay and we’re handling this like Superwoman/man, but the fact of the matter is…… we aren’t.

Here are some ways you can help yourself:

Try to be brave.
Try to find things to smile about.
Get your mind off the pain by thinking of other things.
Get outside and do something; go somewhere.
Read your Bible.
Pray to God for comfort and healing and peace. Ask Him to be your Guide through this pain.
Talk to your pastor and seek counsel for your situation. Let him pray with you.
Take care of yourself. You will be tempted to just let everything go and not care.
Find someone you can talk to that won’t judge you, but will listen and cry with you.

The other night, I heard my friend sobbing and wailing uncontrollably over her loss. My first impulse was to run to her and put my arms around her and just let her sob it all out. Maybe I should have. Yet……….I knew from experience that when you are in that state of mind no one can really console you and it is more embarrassing if someone comes in. It was best to just let her get it out, sob it out, and release it. It is hard on the ones that have to hear and know the pain their friend or loved one is suffering. As her daughter said, “It’s like a death.” In one way, yes, it is like a death. I have heard it said that we have to consider loss like a death, but I don’t know.

One last thought: You are not alone in your pain. Many have been there and have come out on the other side. Like I said in my post When Your Pain Turns to Anguish and Despair your pain will always be with you. It will slowly fade into the background, but it takes a long time. I am not trying to discourage you with that thought, but that is just the way life is. I do want to encourage you though that eventually, you learn to smile again and you will be able to put your pain on a shelf and slowly learn to go on with your life. It is best not to take it off the shelf very often and look at it or you may find yourself in despair again.

There is hope. There is light at the end of your tunnel. You WILL smile again. It just takes time my friend. Maybe your situation will right itself and all will be well. Maybe it won’t. I don’t know and neither do you, but you CAN have hope and faith that all will turn out alright and you will live through it. You may not think you can live through it, but I know you can. You are stronger than you think you are. Every time some new problem would raise it’s ugly head up I just knew I couldn’t handle anything else, but somehow (I know it was God), I always made it through.

I am here. I know your pain. I am praying for each and every one of you that need this right now in your lives to help you get through this horrible time. Look up. That is where your help is.

Author's Bio: 

Kristie Blankenship is a happy wife, mom, grandma, entrepreneur, blogger, and wanna be live in the country girl. She has been there and done that when it comes to the emotional pain part.