WHEN IS THE SELF-AWARENESS PROCESS NOT A CHOICE, BUT A REQUIREMENT?

Whether you are single wishing to develop a satisfying intimate relationship but to no avail, or in a relationship experiencing problems and difficulties similar to the ones you have experienced with previous partners, and you wish to finally get a grip on what’s causing you to fail time and again, developing your Self-Awareness is a MUST.

THE TRIGGETING POINT

It is very likely that developing Self-Awareness is often NOT your first choice. You rather go on with dates and try to extend them into a relationship, hoping and wishing that “this time it will work”.

But if you haven’t succeeded for a long time now, there is a point at which you are so fed up with your failed attempts that you tell yourself: “It’s time I get a grip on what’s going on, on what prevents me from having the relationship I desire.”

This triggering point either comes from WITHIN YOU or is triggered by someone or something external: a good friend, a therapist, a movie, a TV program, a book you read – which motivate you to develop your Self-Awareness and understand, once and for all, what’s going on.

You should welcome and embrace this triggering point with open arms. It indicates the beginning of a new phase in your life: embarking on a process which will lead you to finally become able to develop a satisfying relationship.

The decision to become aware of whether there are ways in which you SHOOT YOURSELF IN THE FOOT is the best decision you can make if you truly want to make a change in your situation. Developing Self-Awareness is what can enable you to finally get to know and understand yourself in a way you haven’t before, to understand what makes you harm your relationships or stay single, and to finally be able to make the necessary changes, develop and maintain a successful intimacy.

THE SELF-AWARENESS PROCESS

Developing your Self-Awareness is a process. As you go through it you become able to stop shooting yourself in the foot, develop and maintain a successful relationship.

This process takes time and courage (to honestly observe, acknowledge and accept what you find out). It cannot be achieved as one-time-shot, one-time-workshop or one-time-therapy session. It takes motivation and perseverance. These are crucial to absorb the information and the insights you gain, and to getting to know and understand a host of factors you haven’t been aware of until now which drove you to sabotage your relationships.

There are no tips and quick-fix solutions to developing Self-Awareness. Each individual develops Self-Awareness according to his/her unique process. There are those who go through the process quickly, those who go through it slowly; some develop it “one step at a time”, others develop it constantly over an extended period of time.

If you are sincerely motivated to develop a satisfying relationship and haven’t succeeded until now, developing your Self-Awareness is a must, regardless of the way you develop yours. It is the only means by which you can realize what made you fail in your relationships until now, change what needs change and become empowered to develop a satisfying intimacy.

Author's Bio: 

Doron Gil, Ph.D., is an expert on Self-Awareness and Relationships with 30 year experience as a university teacher, workshop leader, counsellor and consultant. He is the author of more than 100 articles on the subject and of: “The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship”: http://www.amazon.com/Self-Awareness-Guide-Successful-Intimate-Relations...

More on Dr. Gil, his book and articles: http://self-awareness-and-relationships.blogspot.com