Getting Started with a Sympathy Card
Sympathy Cards Messages, Quotes and Poems

A sympathy card or letter communicates your feelings of compassion, understanding and concern for the one who has lost someone close and dear. A sympathy card does not need to be elaborate or two wordy yet it should deliver your feelings and concern for your friend, colleague or relative.
When to Write a Sympathy Card?

A sympathy card is written when someone dear to your friend, colleague, relative, business acquaintance passes and you wish to inform them of your concern and compassion.
Format of a Sympathy Card
Opening Salutations

Dear Julie,
Dear Julie and John,
Dear Julie, John and Family,
Dear Hopkins Family,

Formatting of the body depends on the kind of acquaintance you had with the deceased. In case of knowing the bereaved but having no acquaintance with the deceased you can write:

You have my sincere condolences on the loss of your mother.
Please accept my heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your dear uncle.
You have my deepest sympathies on the death of your grandfather.
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.

On the other hand, if you personally knew the deceased but are not acquainted with the bereaved:

Julie will be sorely missed by us.
Julie will be sadly missed but warmly remembered in our office.
I will especially miss Julie’s warm smile and kindness.
John’s character was an inspiration to so many.
Julie was a dear friend and she will always be remembered well.
Words and Phrases to Avoid in a Sympathy Card

While writing a sympathy card, avoid some of the commonly used sentences which would make your card sound flippant and immature.

I know how you feel.

It’s for the best.

Time heals all wounds.

He is in a better place now.

I hope you will feel better soon.

It was his time to go.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

This too shall pass.

He won’t suffer anymore.

Sending happy thoughts your way.

Who to Address?

Address the card to the owner of the pet. You can write something like; “In loving memory of Dobberman”.
What to Write?

Write what a great pet your friend had. In case of pet sympathy cards, you can experiment with something sweet, adorable, silly or funny. You can include; “Would miss Dobberman’s paws or his awful tongue”. You can also include a pet loss poem in your card from here.
Sympathy Card Examples
Sample Sympathy Card Message #1

Dear Jane,

May the God who makes prayer out of our speechless grief be present to you today.


Sample Sympathy Card Message #2

My Beloved Peter,

I want so much to help you and be there for you. Yet I know nothing can fix this heartache. Please know that you are not alone. You are continually in my thoughts and prayers. I want to help in any way I can.

Yours Truly,


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